xoxsarahxox

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So strap your selves in, this one is going to be the ranting of a confused and sad teen.

Im in my last year of high school, never had a boyfriend, although I have had some prospects but nothing ever comes, I feel inadaquete, and I think life sucks.. what do I do

koЯnut

Wait...high school. How old are you?

VintageVibe1976

Talk to dr. Drew amd adam corolla. I know this is going to sound shallow, but do you have anything that people might think isn't attractive. For example are you fat, have a really annoying laugh or have had a rumor been spread about you?

kulotsalot

She is 17. Sarah, honestly, when you are in high school you get all wrapped up in the high schooli-ness of it all. You think it is the big finish line of your dating life. And then you go to college, and you're like, hmm, lots more choices here. And then you graduate and you're like, wow, I have the whole world to choose from. Why does it matter if you do or don't have a boyfriend right now? I got out of high school without having a bf, and the one guy who liked me was the weirdo of the year obssessed with pokemon. Sure, I had my bad days when I feel like everything I'm doing is wrong and no guys liked me in that way. I felt bad that I didn't have a prom date, no one to flirt with near the lockers... Did it matter? Not really. I graduated, went to university, met a bunch of people and eventually found myself a bf. 3 yrs later we'd broken up... few months later another bf. Life is as simple or as dramatic as you make it.

3nigm4tic

If you have friends, people to hang out with, if you have a good time, doesn't matter if there are titles on somebody, especially not at that stage in your life. Just be chill... honestly the best way to be friends and be happy is to be laid back. Nobody likes a drama queen. Not to say that there should never be any drama, sometimes its good to get a bit riled up. But overall... you're probably doing pretty well (not that I can really make that call from a few posts on an online forum but hey :happycow

zeppy

Hey now... control the e-leghumping... :happycow:

Back on topic though, don't worry about it. Life gets exponentially better the further removed from high school that you are.

skept

zepfan is so correct that it isn't funny. During HS many people are doing exactly what their peers are doing and aren't their genuine self. The image problem is compounded by the fact that if you achieve well then you are a 'nerd' if you enjoy computers you are a 'geek' if you are good at sports your a 'freak' and if you can't do anything then you are a 'loser'.

Such taunts etc. are made by people who are obviously jealous of your talents and will end out achieving nothing in life anyways.

Ok so back to the point. Most guys in HS don't view relationships seriously and are too young to be in one. Most of them are a wang relationship - my gf is hotter then yours so I'm better then you etc. or I've had more gf's therefore I'm better.

Meanwhile zepfan has said it the best - life does get expontentially better the further from HS that you are. At university you are surrounded by like minded people and you find that your friends etc. are different from those that you have met in HS - since they are all like minded people and if they are doing the same course then you know that they had committed themselves as much as you in order to get to that particular course. Also the girls are more mature (but since your a girl I'll say the blokes are alot more mature then what they are in HS) - so honestly you will be having a lot more fun.

So my advice of the day - Dont worry about it.

zeppy

Eh, I dunno about that, man. I've found for the first year or two of college, people revert and get slightly more immature because of the newfound freedom from parental regulation. After that, though, I'd agree 110% :happycow:

menace2yerbrain

I have to agree with kulotsalot. The world seems small and soon-ending when you're in high school. When you get out, you realize you've been dining on the smallest sliver of the pie - there's so much more to see, so many more people to try on for size. We all have times when we feel inadequate or unloveable; trust me you aren't, and there is someone for everyone out there. I wish you well.

xoxsarahxox

woow that last reply was helpful.. put a smile on face..

p.s
im not trying to go all "emo" on you guys

Lazer

Sarah,
In the next couple years you are going to change a lot! The world around you will change also. All you can do is set some goals keep your head up!
Life does not suck.
10% of life is what happens to you, 90% is how you react to it!
try and find a positive attitude, Be yourself, don't comprimise. you are young enough where the world is at your doorstep.
concentrate on things you can change, Not the things you can't!

I know it might sound silly, But I actually beat a major depression i sufered from for years.
No anti-depresant, No shrinks. Just found a new attitude with the help of a few friends.
One day everything made sense to me.
I hope the same happens for you!

ShyGuy

I kinda of am/was the opposite at that time of how you feel now. I had a couple of girlfriends during high school and my life was alright. Hung out with people all the time, always doing things. Well now? I'm 25, out of high school and it's worse now then before. I have no girlfriend, I never hang out with anyone anymore. I guess the only thing going for me is I have a good full time job and I'm a very healthy guy. Would sound depressing and well, sometimes it is. But I've always tried to tell myself that however your life is setout, enjoy it, the best you can. I know that sounds hard but think about it and you'll know what i mean. For me well, since i don't hang out much and have no girlfriend, iI have a lot of spare time. So I take the time to enjoy that spare time and enjoy life. I travel, mountain bike, and am currently learning to fly (getting my pilots licence), something I've always wanted to do!! .. I try to enjoy the time I have to myself to enjoy everything there is in this world to enjoy.

For you, I'm sure there's more things that you enjoy that can probably take your mind off of the negatives in your life. Think about things you enjoy doing, what makes you smile, what makes you happy.. not what makes you sad. That's what I'm learning to do right now! We are all here for ya Sarah! And i'm sure most of us know exactly what your going through. You'll do fine! You seem like a great girl! So just keep your head up and Best of Luck!

xoxsarahxox

Like I have amazing friends, I go out on weekends, party your average 18 year old girl.. its just I judge the way I feel about my self on how guys judge me and because I have guy friends but no boyfriends I think something is wrong me.. physically or something... I dont know!

Jabooty_3

Sarah, I'm 20, never had a gf in high school, still haven't had one. Its not that bad. A little lonely at times, but ok. All I can think to say is that guys will start to like you in that way soon enough, and you'll find somebody. Until then, just keep enjoying yourself and having fun with your friends.