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My fiance and I are getting married in a few months. We have saved ourselves for marriage, and I'm really concerned about the wedding night. I feel like it's going to be this amazing thing for me, and will be a painful experience for her. Is there anything I can do when the time comes to make it easier on her?

To clarify, we don't have oral or any other kind of genital manipulation at all till marriage. She and I are both complete virgins, and so, from what I gather, the loss of her virginity will be a pretty nasty experience.

Any tips that would help me make the night as good for her as it is for me, and ease the loss of her maidenhead, would be greatly appreciated.

Sagaris

You lucky lucky people, just enjoy the night , go real SLOW and don't worry bout a thing. I think too much advice would spoil the moment for you.

Just have a great time and report back

nuts5000

Don't forget not to drink too much that night! Anyways, good job keeping it till the right time!

jeffc574

I agree 100%. one toast is fine. let your friends get trashed. Start slow and easy. She may be freaked out. Try a shower or bath together. Work from there. You may not want to go "all the way" the first night. That is ok too.

jimmytchi2000

i would say just take things slow. Let her dictate the pace and the depth. If it hurts too much, you can always stop and either do other stuff or try again at some other time. Congrats on your future marriage

a question that you might not even know.....and maybe i'm wrong so any of the females in here can correct me if i am.....but does she use a tampon when she has her period....i always thought that if a girl had...then her hymen would already be broken....maybe i'm wrong.....

white phoenix

many girls that use a tampon (my GF for example) dont break the small membrane that causes the bleeding. Tampons are not that big and they are not inserted that far. When my GF and i had sex the first time it was VERY slow and i didnt even make it in far enough to break it. But like the third time we did it, it broke, and was quite a scare.

white phoenix

as for actually doing it for a first time i suggest in a bath (renting a room with the jacuzzi size one may be easier) because at least the first time my GF and i did it in the bath it was so much easier for beginners.

A thing to look forward to is the more you do it and the better you get (knowing what each other like) the better it feels

kulotsalot

Don't think this is true. Personally the first few times with the tampon were tense and somewhat uncomfortable... but as I got used to it I learned to relax and it never hurt. Didn't break anything either. A menstrual cup broke it for me, MUCH bigger than the ultra absorbent tampons out there. I was sore for a day, but after that well I was pretty much home free.

bonezx

just a heads up on the tub thing. the natural lubricants that she produces will be greatly washed away so that means increased friction which means increased discomfort. Some baby oil or ky may be worth the effort.
For years ladies tore much bigger tissue delivering babies. European midwives have used a digital massage technique which makes these tissues stretch. As a result there was far less tearing. I suspect that some gentle slow playful discovery by hand before you both proceed to the big moment may ease things somewhat. As well let your wife be in complete control in picking position depth speed etc. This may mean the she on top role.

angablade

I would suggest slow first, then you can go a little faster. If I where you, I would aggree with the bath thing but, let her choose weather "to go all the way" or not. after "it" happens, I would suggest getting out of the tub. That way, it doesnt hurt her as much as it would without it.
With you two getting married, it reminds me back when i lost my virginity. we took it slow and easy. Its better when she can control what is happining. I heard its more compertable then.

3nigm4tic

You're gonna want to take it all kinds of slow. Unless you have experienced "genital manipulation" with another partner, I wouldn't even really recommend going all the way the wedding night. Yeah its special and all that but if you are completely inexperienced with the downstairs, you at LEAST need to get familiar before you try anything drastic.

As to actually taking her virginity. It might hurt for her, how much depends on the girl, but hopefully the physical pain will be countered by an emotional high, and it has to happens sometime anyways

goodluck

gargoyle1

take it easy, enjoy that special night =)

[chavez]

use lots of lube. Also, it really depends on the girl. Some will be in pain no matter what you do the first time around, others will be fine. So all you can really do is take it slow, use good lube (not KY), listen to what she says, and don't hammer away at her.

Chances are that it WILL hurt. I wouldn't say that it's going to be a nasty experience for her, just a bit painful. But since this is your first time it'll be special either way IMO. Also, don't just jam it in, make sure you have lots of foreplay first. I commend you guys for making it till marriage to have sex.

lizard2202

wat a lucky man...not many virgins around these day..im worried u cannot makes it at first attempt. my experience the "erection" lasted only less than 2 min. (i think most first timer experiencing the same) my advice, u shll visit gymn frm now on. more work out on ur rear bottom & push up. it'll help a lot.