dve

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Hello all My g/f and I have been living together for nearly 3 Months and going out for a few weeks more that that and One of the first things that she told me was never to lie to her if I was ever in love and I said that I will never and was never in love , A Month ago she went into my Computer while I was at work and Found Letters that I wrote to my EX 10 + Years ago and in one of them I said that I loved her and that caused one big stink now things were all good and this Morning while I was at work AGAIN she found MSM messages that I saved ( I forgot that they were there ) From a girl that I slept with early this year ( Before we started going out) and World war 3 Broke out she cursed me in the Worst way and said that she wants to pack up and leave in the middle of that I said that I was Hungry and she Brought food for me , Her EX b/f in in the Country they havent seen eachother in 2 Years and she went to Visit I am scared to go home cause all hell will break loose and I am a Big Guy but will never hit a Woman but she hits me .... All in all I Love her very much and dont want to loose her ........ HELP

popopopo

I hope you know for sure she won't find your postings on these boards or all hell will break out. I used to have problems with my gf thinking, "she must have really loved the person she used to be with." I used to be jealous until I realized that its all in the past! Some people overuse the word love, its seems with every day, the word grows in meaning so you can't be held responsible for saying "i love you" to some girl a while ago. As far as trust, you are the one who should be up in arms! She's snooping around your computer...how much trust is in that! As far as her hitting you, man, you have to get out of there. Report her or something. Don't be with a girl whose gotta be the center of everything.

Lucky Bob

Umm... seems like you're in trouble, for two seperate reasons.

1) if she hits you, IMO, you have to decide whether to take it, or to respond in kind, depending on the circumstance. If she's genuinely trying to hurt you, then you have to show her that that's not OK. (probably get flack for this statement, but oh well)

2) as for the lying thing... seems like you can give up, and just let her own you for the rest of the time you are together (not recommended) or you can take control of the situation, and help her understand that it doesn't matter what you said to other girls, because you didn't love them (which would mean you had lied to the other girls, but that would probably be a relatively minor issue)

Edit: seems like popopopo has it mostly covered (post wasn't there when I went to answer), so I'll just add this: the original post is hard as hell to read, so I'm not sure my answers apply entirely to the situation at hand.

kulotsalot

1) Physical abuse is NEVER ok. If you can't get her to stop by talking to her, that is one reason why you might want to reassess if you still want to be with her.

2) TRUST is a big one in a relationship. If you don't have that it'll be an uphill climb.

dve

Actually rite now she is on the Phone with me Reading the Letters and Packing ... I am at work Helpless and Going Mad

Lucky13

Let her go, you dont' need her. She's creepy anyway to be snooping around your hard drive for 10 year old emails. You didn't cheat on her so you didn't deserve that. What does it matter to her if you said you loved a girl 10 years ago? Plus she hits you and that is wrong.

zeppy

I'd say just cut your losses too. While you did perhaps skirt the truth or tell a bit of a "fib", that is no reason for her to be searching through your your private things. To be a snoop is worse than being a liar.

Although, one thing I am wondering... why do you still have 10 year old letters from an ex and MSN messages saved from the beginning of the year? Is it that these "relations" actually meant more than you are willing to let on? Otherwise, just save yourself the hassle and get rid of em... if they mean nothing to you than they are nothing, and hence are not worth saving.

And, I'd recommend putting a password on your computer.

salamander

It's not ok for her to hit you, period. I'm glad to hear you wouldn't hit her.

Pretty damn disrespectful of her to be snooping around your computer. This is someone you trust? Doesn't sound too good to me.

tsmo

let her go NOW. if you have drama NOW.. and its only the beginning of the relationship. drop that bitch like yesterdays news.
Your too young and you dont need that drama. Find a chick that will respect you.. 3 months into your relationship you should still be having fun dates. not arguing about past relationships.. seems to me shes got someone else ( that ex ) and found a quick out on your PC ..

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UsrBinBoy

If she's invading your privacy, then she has to go. If you can't trust her to not go thru your shit, then she's not worth it. Plus, she seems to have a trust issue with you, and that's why she's snooping. Sounds like one of you should move out ASAP because this is just the start of an unhealthy relationship.

Juan.©amaney

I'm with the lizard on this one.

It is never okay for anyone to go through your shit without your permission ESPECIALLY a significant other.

It is NEVER okay for anyone to hit their significant other either.

You are better off not having this kind of emotional woman in your life. Sure, sex is great with looneys cuz its passionate, but the drama isn't worth it.

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dve

Well I went home Yesterday and Yes all hell did break loose and at 2AM we got up and made Love then back to all hate this morning untill I had a problem at work and she Talked me through it With lots of love ........... Go Figure

kulotsalot

DO you really wanna be see-sawing like that every day, every week, every month...? That will drive you nuts, and sanity > great sex. I don't think it's worth it, time to split.

CD

Your female is psycho. She spys on you, mistreats you, and threatens you. No amount of make-up sex is worth the lasting damage she will do to you.

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