morpheus8005

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Alright guys, as some of you may remember I have been going out with this girl for a little while now and I lost my virginity to her. The issue is that I am having some of the same problems that I have had from the begining. She is not reciprocating. I go down on her and she just will not take the inniative to do the same. I don't want to have to ask her! It should be(I would think obvious) that I want to get mine too. Now before anyone thinks me selfish I think sex should be about both people. I always make sure she gets hers, usually multiple times. It really bothers me that she seems to have no interest in my little soldier.

She spent the night last night and this morning we started messing around. I went down on her and she came what I figure to be like 3 times. Then when I was done she was content to just kiss me and caress me, and not even make a move towards my crotch. At this point I got upset and pissed. I waited a while and after her doing nothing I got up and made myself something to eat.

I didn't say much to her at all after I got up. She ended up leaving and she of course knew I wasn't too happy. She called me up after she left and asked me what was wrong and said that she just didn't feel comfortable leaving me on those terms. We talked about it and I told her when we are messing around it just doesn't feel like you are as into this as I am. It seems like once you get yours its cool to be done. I told her it felt like she wasn't into me in that way. She ended up telling me that I treat her the best shes been treated by a guy and how shes never had a guy give her their "full attention". I told her if she didn't want to be with me to let me know cause I would just move on. She said she wanted to be with me and agreed that sex needed to be about both people.

Now it would seem that the problem should be fixed, but why do I feel like its still broken? Am I not being agressive enough during sex? Should I be unzipping my pants whipping it out and telling her to suck? To me I want her to do it herself. To me it shows she wants it as much as I do....any thoughts would be greatly appreciated! I need some serious advice and thank you for reading my post if you have made it this far.

bohica mike

My advice.....no more tongue baths until you get one. And don't tell her either. If she starts to push your head down that way, stop at her boobs or her belly-button....but under no circumstances are you to touch the poonanny orally until she does yours. Just my 2 cents.....

Lucky Bob

Well, here's my $.02:

Don't know if it applies as much to long-term relationships, but I know some girls won't go down on your unless you "make" them, but then will happily do so. Then again, they're the ones who are into being submissives... if she's not, I wouldn't entirely suggest it.

clamsrus

Talk to her about oral sex......maybe she's had bad experiences with other guys.....hygiene....aggressiveness.......getting his and not giving......or maybe she's worried you are going to cum in her mouth and she finds that revolting or something......You are sleeping with the woman, just ask her outright. It's very hard to side step a direct question such as "Why won't you suck me off or give me the same pleasure as I just gave you (while getting a stiff neck amongst other things, for the last hour)??"

The Dog

You have to tell her about it..tell her it is more about being fair than anything..I also agree w/ mike on this one, dont do her until she does you..also, some girls just dont like to give head before they even give it a chance, just the idea of it isnt apealing to them...It is your perogative to get this idea out of her head..just keep your cool and play the fairness role..it might take a little bit of time, but it will work..stickto your guns and dont go down on her..just be sure not to be a dick about it and dont get demanding..if you do start getting demanding, keep it on a joking around level..starting to demand things is not good because it is putting presure on her to do something she doesnt even want to do in the first place, causing her to resent the act and therefore never really enjoy it..this does work, just be a little patient.

morpheus8005

Well thnx for the advice all, I have some good news. We talked about it and she doesn't have a problem with giving head. She told me that her last boyfriends were the type that it was all about them. So, I think she was just enjoying how much attention I was giving her and forgeting that I have needs too. I'ts all good now cause we did it last night and she did great! Hopefully this will continue is all I have to say cause I'm having a lot of fun hehe.

jimmytchi2000

i'd just pull the move......as follows......start kissing her...with one or both hands grab the back of her head. Push down slightly on the back of her head. If she goes down fine. If not....just push harder.

nah i'm just kidding. A move like that might not work that well with the ladies. I think that you just need to let her go on her own terms. She may like it in the end, so don't give up on it.

TheMooninites

Glad to hear your getting a lil head finally after all your hard work on her with your tongue.

Well, hope she keeps giving you head and it is all good but remember don't forget about her pussy in all this and eat her out. Because I will say if a girl sucks dick great then I can tend to drift off to happy land and forget to do her. Luckily I rarely drift to happy land so much I forget and I do the girl afterwards as I always seem to get oral first.

Also about your move jimmytchi2000, ya most girls could get turned off on that but the girl I am with now for one reason or another likes to be forced so she likes stuff like that. The more I force her the more she likes it so if your girl likes to be forced like her then that is a good way to initiate some oral loving but only do it if she likes being forced or is a lil kinky.

schmooot

you should be content with having a clean girl that you can go down on period

ff7799

Ok, What you need to do is help her find your crotch, the next time she's kissing and such slowly lower her down to that area, then she'll get the idea. Its as simple as that.