atmguy

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This is gonna sound real weird... so please be nice. This is my first post here...

My GF and I have been together for 6 months now. Everything is going really well!

So here is the problem. When I eat and finger her, she will repeatedly push me away just before she is about to cum. Needless to say, this makes me feel a little frustrated. It also makes me feel cheap, because I don't think it's fair that only I get to cum when we make love together. She has made a comment to me that 'it feels sooo good just before'. Still this is sounds like an excuse to me... I have tried speaking with her about it to no avail - she says " I'll try not to push you away". I even went with the comical path and bought a pair of fuzzy pink hand-cuffs as a joke, and subliminal messege you know?

I am at a loss here! I got my girl to cum only ONCE. She only let me continue long enough ONCE.

Any help that can be given is VERY VERY much appreciated!
(especially a woman's)

Gansey

shes prolly just embarassed about it or something? Just tell her that you want her to and that you think its great and all that.

domonx

how long does it take for you to reach that point? I don't mean to be rude, and I may be way off, but maybe she doesnt feel she is capable of reaching a true orgasm with what you guys are doing and doesnt want to "fake it" so she does this instead?

OrdinaryGirl

Okay...I can't answer without more info.

Does she orgasm during intercourse? If so, consistently?

And how do you know that the point where she pushes you away is right before climax? By her sounds and body movements?

Sometimes oral and manual stimulation is too intense for some women and they prefer the more indirect stimulation that accompanies intercourse.

klubrollur315

my g/f did the same for yrs. it really pissed me off. we even bought sum sex rope one time and tied her down to try and make it work. no she eventually squeezed her legs back 2gether by breaking the rope. i know it wasnt me cuz even when she used her vibe she would stop right before. finally one day while using her vibe and me playing with her clit she put a pillow in her mouth and just hung on for the ride. now she gets off alot more but still sumtimes when im down there she pushes off towards the end and then just asked me to fuck her. dont know wut it is but i know its frustrating.

texan02

See if she wants to try making it all the way, then try the handcuffs. it could be fun, and if she does, she'll never want to stop midway again

atmguy

She doesn't orgasm durring intercourse...

I can tell she is very close by her moans and body movement, yes. She also starts to get tight and I can feel some contractions just before. I know she isn't cumming though. She admits that...

OrdinaryGirl

Hmmm. When she masturbates, does she allow herself to orgasm? If so, maybe get her to demonstrate, so you can get an idea of what gets her off. I really think this has to do with the intensity of the manual and oral stimulation and perhaps a more indirect technique might be helpful.

I don't really have any more advice other than trying to talk to her about it more and explore the reasons behind her actions. I think klubrollur was onto something when he said that once you starts allowing herself to climax, she won't push you away anymore.

Good luck.

atmguy

Well, she says she doesn't really masturbate... Which I beleive and sort of don't, ya know? I'm just totally confused. Trust me I have talked about it so much that she pretty much says: "OMG ...." and laughs about it.

I will try to more gentle though.

atmguy

Not long.... perhaps 10 minutes or so.

Tasha

I read ths thread last night and was thinking about a conversation I had with an ex-girlfriend (obviously I am bi) when we were dating a few years back.

I personally have never held back an orgasm or pushed someone away at the point of an orgasm but my ex has. The story goes like this .... She was seeing some guy and they had a good sex life but she could only cum through penetration. She had never cum through oral or masturbation before. this frustrated her and she decided that she was gonna make herself cum no matter what. She got a vibe out and proceed to use it on her clit. She felt her orgasm building up and knew that she wasn't going to hold back this time. She writhed around in total pleasure and at the point of what she thought was going to be her cumming .... she urinated!

Since then she has always stopped masturbating herself or pushed her partners away at the point she feels she is going to cum incase she doesnt actually cum but urinates again.

I dont know if this is common, I've never heard anything like it before, but it could be a reason for a girl pushing you away. Tasha.

atmguy

hmmmm, perhaps. Thanks for the idea!

Sekhmet

Has anything in her past happened to her to make her feel ashamed or was she abused at all? Strict upbringing, where it wasn't talked about, or that premarital sex is bad, anything along those lines? Sound almost like she has deeper issues here.

atmguy

That's sort of what I'm fearing... I have spoken about it to her numerous time. I even asked what you have suggested point blank, she said no. I beleive her, she answered without hesitation, but not abruptly. I think she is totaly honest with me, I hopE!

P.S. she is getting better slowly, very very very slowly... but it's taking a lot of time.