rykeegsoar

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so ive been lets say friends with benefits with this girl for about a year and half then i decided to make th emove and we have been dating now for 6 months, im lovin it but the othe rnight at my isters grad party did a little black out off a keg and soem jack got into soem kind of argument with her she pushed me off a chair and i was told i got up and pushed her and she fell, everyone saw i didnt remeber but i feel liek the biggest dick in the world, embarrased in front of those people, ashamed and now im out a girlfriend. she said she has given up on me and i need her in my life how do i handle this stitch. i wanan talk to her and work this out but i dotn wanna pester her with phone calls what the f do i do

2step

You screwed up royaly dude. First thing is you go back to friends with benefits. 2nd thing you do is you stop drinking. Sounds like your a mean drunk and the world has enough of them right now. After she see's that your not drinking anymore maybe you'll be given a second chance. But after physically abusing a smart girl.... that girl might not ever have anything to do with you again... Sorry to say there's not an easy answer to this one.

joshua.adams

I agree with 2step but it is not completely hopeless. first don't go back to friends with benefits right off. Just be her friend, ie talk and actually listen to her, but joke with her. You have to joke with her that is very important. If you are constantly serious and constantly thinking about you can get her back, even when you are with her, she will sense it and it won't happen. You need to just hang out and chit chat, make little attagonistic jokes about her but don't be overly brutal since you are already in the dog house. After a month or two then go out kind of on a date and if you drink stop after one or two even BUT NO MORE. And if something happens that night then good but if not don't feel discouraged because chicks can hold grudges. You just have to continue to be her friend and in this time you will also see if she is really the one you want to be with or if you are doing it just because you feel guilty for being dick. I know a lot of friends who got back with their ex's just because they felt guilty not because they actually loved them even though they thought that is what they felt. But this should work and good luck. And don't stop hanging out with your other friends and blowing off everything you love for this chick. There might be a better one later on that you could miss out on.

Maelindar

Is there more to the story? From the information above it sounds like you have been in some sort of intimate relationship with her for about 2 years. It is rare for one event to breakup a relationship of that length unless something else is involved.

There is no excuse for ever abusing a woman, but if this was a one time drunk thing it can normally be talked through. Did she simply stop returning your calls, or did she say something about breaking up afterwards? You need to have a very open and hoinest conversation with her and bring all the issues out onto the table. You also need to sincerely apologize and take steps to ensure something like this doesn't happen again.

If you can address the issues, then focus on building the relationship back up by having fun and rediscovering why the two of you enjoy being together to begin with.

First step is to sincerely apologize and find out if she is willing to speak to you and let you know what all is wrong. Don't pester her with phone calls though. Let her know that you are sincerely sorry and would like to talk, and then give her some time. She could just be pissed right now and need to cool off before talking to you.

Good luck.

The Dog

I agree..something else must be going on..you said she had given up on you??? is this because you pushed her 1 time?? that just doesnt make sense..also, how long has it been since this incident happened?? if only for a few days, or a week even, you have to give her a little time to think.girls do hold grudges longer than guys.. one thing you need to do is call her..not obsessively, but maybe 1 or 2 times a day, it doesnt even mater if you talk to her, but just to show her that you care..you can leave 1 voicemail message, but it must be very short and say nothing more than your name and for her to call you if she gets a chance..that is all you can do..

Juan.©amaney

reason #3423947532049875 I stopped drinking...black outs.

You fucked up...live with it. Not much you can do if she won't talk to you. If she feels you are an abusive drunk...you'll never be with her again.

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