Lucky Bob

I'll second this one. Statistically, there's a high probability that any given woman isn't interested in what you're "selling," although I guess this is less so given that it's a club/bar, which are generally notorious as pickup spots. In any case, she might be in a relationship, she might be a lesbian, she might go for another type of guy (say she's into metros, and you're a punk), whatever, it doesn't really matter. All that matters is that an uncomfortably large number of women will say "no". That means it's your friend's job to get over that fact, and get used to being told no, so that it no longer bothers him and he can just move on.

My $.02

byuntae

It's a club, thats like the easiest place to pick up chicks. You don't even need to smooth talk. Just be like "hey you're hot. do you think im hot too? wanna come home with me?" if she says no then move on to the next girl. who's going to be embarrassed? no one goes to a club to watch guys get rejected they go there to have fun so just have fun.

Mattius

Tell him to be confident. Women are like animals they can smell your fear.. haha. But he shouldn't be scared of being rejected,the only people that will know he's been rejected is him, the girl (who he'll never see or hear from again), and the friend he's with. His friend won't care or make fun of him, and he shouldn't care because not all girls are gonna be attracted to him, its a fact of life. But yeah, confidence is key. Act like he knows he's gonna get her and chances are he will

slowcivicboy

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3nigm4tic

just because nobody has bothered to run this in to the ground yet.

You not only seem to have never been in a club, but your knowledge and wording is poor enough for me to almost imagine you being fairly young (ie. younger than the age requirement for this site).

Most clubs are not the easiest way to pick up girls. Whatever popular lore may or may not exist, many clubs are in fact TERRIBLE places to pick up girls. Having already been through a year of the college party/clubbing experience, I can say with some confidence that, excepting a couple clubs whose layout favors it (mostly large, with some breathing room, not too crowded) just running around in a club will get you nowhere. Obviously there are exceptions so don't give me random anecdotes about how it works, it's just not the *optimal* place to do it. Parties, bars and taverns (drinking and socializing as opposed to rubbing asses) are all better places to be then a dance club. Dance clubs might be where you take a date to get everybody in the mood (by rubbing asses, of course) before you head back to a more private environment, instead of a start-from-scratch environment.


Try being the wingman for your friend by having yourself and a couple buddies engage a group of women, thus getting him in the door by default, or even set him up a couple times with a date (bring your own girls!) so he can get back in the swing of things.

hoff

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so heres the deal, i was looking for initial d videos and this thread popped up cause someone used the word initial at some point. i have to say i read the whole thing. i get where your coming from, i have a slightly different problem though. for the last 4 yrs or so, college, the only time i would try and pick up women was when i was drinking. now when i drink i think im the shit, i mean i am friggin fearless, and have sworn on several occasions that i could smell a women who was into me (i was really really drunk, but i was right once). so i was always making initial contact when i was drunk. my problem didnt arise until just yesterday when i met a girl, who i am quite certain at this point was hitting on me, and had to force myself to do all the little crap you do when you first meet a person. i did a stent (still doing) in the army, rotc/smp/airborne school. i have run all day with 65lbs of gear in the middle of aug in south georgia and i was more physically exhausted from talking to this girl for 10 min than i ever was doing army crap. my advise is this, stay away from the drugs/alcohol they become a crutch and the girls you want to meet arent at the bar so odds are your gonna have to do it sober.

tom10

Needs more time and should take it slow and easy. Chicks are like buses at a bus stop
if you miss one there be another one.

Lazer

Yes Mike Dimone


Mike Damone: I mean don't just walk in. You move across the room. And you don't talk to her. You use your face. You use your body. You use everything. That's what I do. I mean I just send out this vibe and I have personally found that women do respond. I mean, something happens.
Mark Ratner: Well, naturally something happens. I mean, you put the vibe out to 30 million chicks, something is gonna happen.
Mike Damone: That's the idea, Rat. That's the attitude.
Mark Ratner: The attitude?
Mike Damone: Yeah! The attitude dictates that you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays, or prays. I mean whatever happens, your toes are still tappin'. Now when you got that, then you have the attitude.





Damn, dead thread!Damn, Dead thread

devone

Simple....Go to the club or party with a group of close friends, and make sure that most of them are girls. Girls for some odd reason find guy that are taken more appealing. Have a few stiff drinks, but don't get sloppy drunk. Find a girl that you like and make small conversation tru the night, but no more than a few sentences at a time. Don't seem despaerate, but don't act lke you want a piece of ass. Smile alot, but don't be gay. Dance and have fun with the girls you are with, and the girls will come to you. Most girls know if they want to sleep with a guy before they actually talk to them, so just try NOT to say anything stupid and you're good.

devone

are you looking for a relationship or ass????

HIJACKER

If your trying to hook up at a club, this is obviously just for ass. You won't find yourself a "relationship" by club/bar hopping. Anyhow..

First off, you can't be obvious and you have to just play if off. Be smooth, relax, and don't try to hard. Make initial eye contact or a slight hint your interested then immediately back off and let her do something back to get your attention. Keep in mind this is best done if you do this to SEVERAL at a time. Just like sales, its a numbers game and odds are, once you tap a few potential "customers", you will make a "sale".

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Drewbon5000

I read this e-book called Double your Dating and its got some pretty good stuff to get rid of shyness problems. One of the things the author suggested to get over fear of the ladies is to walk through a crowded mall on a saturday afternoon and introduce yourself to EVERY hot girl you walk past. The author said one of his friends tried it and actually got physically sick the first couple times, but after the day was over, he could talk to any girl and not feel embarrassed. I hope this helps!

WEme

One thing that he should always keep in mind is most of the time everyone at the club is there for the same reason, or atleast one other person is there for the same reason he is, just broke up looking to connect with someone else. Dont get me wrong there are some people at clubs there just to get guys to buy them drinks so they can have a good time for free with there friends. Just get in the habit of being able to talk to girls dont always think you want to hook up with them. Start off with the goal of keeping a conversation going with them for as long as they are entertained. Me i have a real tough time at first talking one on one with a girl so get everyone in her group talking getting to know you, not just the girl your after. Seems to work for me,