Geocacher

Work on the marriage, not the fantasy. With a 1 year old to take care of I'm guessing the marriage spark is not as hot - with a choice of sleep or sex the former offen can be more tempting. It gets better as the kid gets older - she's easier to take care of giving you and the wife more time to get back to your former relationship. Remember the reasons you've spent 16 years with her so far...

sam3722

Contrary to what Hollywood portrays/defines as love, it is NOT magical. Well, ok, maybe initially. But not over the long-term. Love is a verb. It must be demonstrated to be felt, and it must be given to be received.

The fires of love MUST be rekindled on a regular basis.

It is complete fallacy to believe that love just "disappears." What really happens is you stop adding fuel to the fire. Then it goes out. What would you expect?

Bubba G1rl

Stick with what you have. If you dont, you will regret it for the rest of your life.

Ninja369

To be honest I'd stop fucking the girl and then talk to your wife. The reason you might not be getting along is because your not paying attention to her. Your thinking of this other chick. The reason she might be so hot is because you're married and with her. That thrill of doing something "bad." Thats pretty low in my book and I think you'll never be able to live with yourself unless you tell your wife everything. It's not up to you if you should stay together anymore. It should be up to your wife.

rich68bird

DO stop screwing around. DON'T tell your wife. It doesn't do her any good. Only shatters her trust and gives her something to resent for the rest of her life.

Confession is for the confessor. If you need to purge yourself, go to a priest or clergyman, seek counseling, or attend Sexaholics Anonymous. Do not unload your baggage on your wife and daughter. This is your mess to clean up.

sonrisa10201

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THANK YOU!!! finally someone agrees with me! my parents have 5 kids and have been married for 18 years, well up until recently... my mom has cheated on him soo many times, but they stayed together just for us... i know that its hard on a child for their parents to split, BUT its even harder to see your parents so cold towards eachother, and see the hurt in your fathers eyes everyday, and know that the only reason they go through this is because of you, kids arent stupid, they understand a lot of those things, and it messes with them much more to know that its only because of them, trust me....i know your daughter is sill young, but she will figure it out eventually, and i agree with whoever said women can sense these things, that is probably why you and your wife have gone down hill recently...
i dont think leaving your wiife for this woman would be a wise choice, she probably wont stick around and you will regret it, but if you truly dont want to be with your wife, leave her for that reason, life is too short to be unhappy only for the sake of not hurting someone else... and she will know that is the only reason, and not be happy with it anyways... if you decide to stay with her and work it out, then you need to cut off all ties with this other woman, ALL OF THEM!! if you dont then things will only escalate into the same situation a year or so down the road...
sam3722 you are a genious!! ive never heard anyone be so accurate with the comparison of a relationship and a fire, it really makes sense....

sam3722

Thank you for your kind words.

rich is right: DO NOT force this negative information on your wife. She deserves better. Give her better.

Dont_Lose_It

you should take care of your kid and forget about having sex n stuff with that other girl, but thats what marriage does to you...if i were u i wouldn't have gotten married, but umm...just worry about your kid man, thats all i can say, let that girl pass by, its really not worth ruining so much shit over
just forget her, trust me, you'll break your wife's heart SO bad if you leave her for another girl..you know how she burned you in '02....thats how your wife will fell...just like you did, caught in a lie

phatbusa

Just a thought but, you're missing a lot of time you could be spending with your wife and one year old by chasing after a piece of ass. I've got three kids and if I have two hours to spend I'd rather spend it with my kids, even if me and the wife aren't getting along at the time!!!!

Your kid is one year old, the first step, the first word, all that stuff is what you should be looking forward to not a piece of ass while your wife is watching your little one.

Sorry if it sounds bitter, and I don't mean to beat anybody up!!!

Just my thoughts!! Take em' or leave em'

Garth020762

Think about this...if this girl has fucked with your head once before --what makes you think she won't do it again -- MAYBE after you leave your wife? Then what will you have??? Nothing but bridges burned, trust is G-O-N-E-, huge support checks to make, hassles over who says what, where, when and how, you even look at your ex wife funny she'll rake you over the coals (cuz she can)...say goodbye to that girlfriend...get real with the situation, grow up and be Dad your kid will be proud to be with and make your wife the happiest wife she can be...its a hell of alot better than living "the other way"...besides...think of this way....would you want YOUR daughter to grow up being "that way" like that crazy woman??? It all starts at home and the examples you set...Good luck...start small and rebuild that relationship you have now...its more solid then what you were messing with...

bcop803

SHE gets half, 1/2 and more

johndumont

Forget the bitch. What you might do to your wife, she might do to you. How would you like it if your dad left you for some pussy or your mom left you over some dick. Would you like to be raised up having just one parent there. Get back with your wife, show her to still love her. Fuck her as much as you want. You fucked her and a baby came up, so now you are supposed to be the responsible one, not the jerk. If you leave your wife, you will throw 16 yrs away and your daughter will NEVER truly love you. Would you like it if your wife left you over some guy who could fuck better? How would you feel if she sucked on the best cock ever and it wasn't yours, while your married. And then she left you with the child, what would you feel like? The other bitch might leve you after a year. Why did you marry the girl you were with for 16 yrs if you didn't love her?

Lucky13

Yeah, you really do. Be a man and live up to the responsibilities you accepted when you got married and had a kid. If you didn't like getting burned in 02 then why would you go and do the same to your wife. That's really hypocritical. Don't tell your wife, it'll cause too many problems, just try to work things out. If things can truly never be fixed, let her be the one to end it so you don't dump on her the shame of being left for some homewrecker. The sex may be great, but you're not gonna find happiness in life because you get great sex every day.

wood13

You all have given sound advice....i have since moved out of my home and moved in with the red head, then moved back out then back in again then back out....now i just want a big line of meth so i can forget the whole thing for a week or so.....fuckkkk