wood13

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Long story short I met a girl in 2002 at a warehouse my company bought from and really fell hard for her, this occuring the year after i got married to my girlfriend of 16 years....We talked everyday cellphone bills went through the roof, hotmail etc...she had told me then in '02 she was moving out here and was making plans blah blah blah but liitle did I know she was talking to some dude from KY in the same way, making plans yadda yadda....anyway, i caught her in her lie and it devastated me in a way i never felt before ( i know it's stupid we had never met b4) but i was so pissed. I knew this crazy redhead was different...

Fast forward to 2004, traded places...I now work for a warehouse that her .com company bought from in KY (im still in CA) and he started talking again and i talked her into moving here...I flew there and we drove her stuff back...nightmare starts here....i totally chickened out and didnt want to leave my wife and 1 yr old daughter..I felt sorta justified that way because she burned me so bad in 02...anyway, present day she's in an apt in anaheim and i still love teh crazee bitch...it's litterly the BEST pussy I ever had...and she looks at me like no one ever has and i feel like ever will...i dont know what the fuck to do, need some advice.....................I dont want to wreck my little girls life because i fell in love with someone else, but i feel an oppotunity passing me by for true happiness (i sound like a faggot) .......my wife and I havent gotten along since my daughter turned 1...just went totally different directions...i am fucking really confused for once in my life i have no idea what the fuck to do.......

OrdinaryGirl

You are in love with a woman who played you once before and is willing to sleep with a married man.

You need to separate the two issues. One issue is the fact that you have invested at least 16 years with the one woman, gone through big stuff, small stuff, had a child together. You have to decide if you are willing to give that up. Would you leave your wife if you didn't have "the best pussy ever" waiting for you? Would you throw your marriage away if you knew the woman would leave you for a different guy in a year?

If you'd be fine ending your marriage and being alone, then that is one thing. If you are ONLY leaving for this woman, you'll just end up miserable if it doesn't work out with her.

Figure out how you feel about your marriage first. Stop fucking the other one until you do. If you decide to leave, then so be it. But you need to take a good hard look at what you have, a good hard look at the woman who has put a good portion of her life into this marriage as well, and decide if you can live without it.

Plus, if you tell the other woman you need some time to deal with your marriage, you'll see her true colours. I have fifty bucks on the fact she dumps you and finds some other guy to screw.

G-Curl

Couldn't have said better myself OG, this second girl sounds a little risky. You marry someone because you can't live without them, not because it's the best pussy you've ever had (I know that's not the only reason but the fact that you mentioned it first kinda says something). Sounds messed up man and I don't think you can find the answer on a forum full of people who don't know you, there'll be more than enough people trying to offer advice, but nobody knows you better than yourself and your friends, talk to them about it. Best of Luck

wood13

Sound advice....your right, she has NO integrity, no moral fiber whatsoever....hard habit to break man, really really fucking up here.

OrdinaryGirl

You can't change what you've done. You can only change what you do today and tomorrow.

Let your guilt motivate you be a better partner and to realize what you have. You still have your marriage. It's not gone yet. But you need to use this opportunity to rekindle the love with your wife. You are one of the lucky ones to see it before it is too late.

Good luck.

aquadude

I'm just wondering if you remember your wedding vows...the ones with the phrase "To have and to hold, to love and to cherish, in sickness and in health, in times of good and bad?"

Don't be a man of broken promises, especially not for something so trivial as sex. If you ever get tired of sex, think of your little girl that you ditched to follow the whims of your penis.

dade murphy

Do the right thing. I am sorry if it is not what you want. When you had that little girl you made an obligation. You need to put your selfish lust's behind you and concentrate on giving that girl a good life with a functional father. I am not exactly happy with my marriage or wife. I do have a seven year old son and a six month old daughter. I cannot betray them. Don't make a mistake that you will regret FOREVER. It will haunt your every moment.

straycat66

D-i-v-o-r-c-e

dishluck

^Major fucking idiot.

Listen, man.. forget the stupid bitch and stick with your wife. This lady you're after is nothing but trouble.

Oh, and why are you and your wife having problems? I don't wanna sound like a dick or anything, but it's probably becasue this lady has been on your mind more and more and you've begun to act differently around your wife. Women... they can sense these things, man.

bubba2233

You have a kid, think about it... Enough said.

DAWGS083195

Three words.........DON"T DO IT!!!!!! That "pussy" will fuck your life up and not give one little shit about it! Think about your 1 year old daughter!

sam3722

Dude, if you want the fire back in your marriage, IGNITE IT! The flame doesn't keep burning just because it burned before. It burns when you ADD fuel to it.

Date your wife again. Romance her as you did when you FIRST tried to win her over. You'll both be better for it.

Wildfires ignite on their own...but eventually they burn out if there is no more fuel.

If you light a bonfire, it will burn until there is nothing left, then it dies. BUT, if you throw more fuel on it, it WILL continue to burn. THAT, my friend, is your marriage, and YOUR choice.

GP

Try to fix up your marriage, and do it for your little girl atleast.

jeepinjc

yea you are really fucking up if you go with the gf. she sounds like she will be gone in a min. all great advise ^^ from you guys and i cheated on my girl once and i felt so bad about it that when i got home and in front of her it made me realize jsut what she meant to me Ps. the sex was best that we had had in a long time it definatly rekindled our relationship