JimmyChonga

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MY girlfriend and I seem to be at the end of our relationship...... Well I am but shes nuts about me and im not sure how to break it to her, any ideas on how to deal with this? any ideas will be greatly appriciated.
-Jimmi

Juan.©amaney

Explain a little more about why you lost interest and she is still madly in love. If you haven't been leading her on, the relationship should usually mutually kill itself.

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zeppy

Sounds like my situation with my ex. What I did is just basically slowly make my lack of interest apparent so that we mutually agreed to end it.

Unfortunately, she came crying back to me (and still tries like a month and a half later).

So, I dunno... I guess either come right out and tell her "I'm not interested anymore" or try to fix things.

ninonino

Sometimes you just have to come clean and tell her and then hope for the best. Not telling her and then cheating would really destroy her. Trying to be friends afterwords can make things really hard on the one that is still in love. It will be really hard telling her if she breaks down but just stay strong. That seems to be the best way. Trying to let her down easy and still hanging out is what screws shit up.

tsmo

REXQONDO - Break the wrist and walk away. break the wrist.. and walk away..


seriously though. honesty. If your done., tell her. tell her why. be honest. its gonna hurt her regardless, and most likely you'll feel like a jackass too, but thats just the way it is in any ending relationship that meant anything.. if your honest, you'll know you've done the right thing, and hopefully she'll look back on it and still hate you, and tell all her girlfriends you have a small pecker.. but know you did the right thing as well..


good luck..

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JimmyChonga

Thanks for your insight guys, i think its gonna help.

OrdinaryGirl

Absolutely agree with tsmo here on the honesty issue. Don't make up excuses or give her false hope. It's going to hurt, but if she thinks she can change things to make it all better, it will be a lot worse and last longer.

TheMooninites

Ya I agree to that just straight out tell her you no longer feel the same way or whatever and just end it because if you do it this way in the long run she and you will be better off emotionally.

Now if you don't wanna take that approach you have a few options to get her to break up with you so you don't have to break up with her, here they are:

#1 Make sure she catches you cheating on her.
#2 Start ignoring her, being an asshole and so fourth.

But if you care about her enough to care about her feeling don't do choice #1 as it will really hurt her and may make her less trusting of guy's in the future and hey you may not wanna be with her now but other guy's might in the future so don't ruin it for them.

Well, best of luck on your situation, hope it ends as good as it can with both you being able to remain friends and what not.

Hope whatever I said or anyone else said helps you out.

gamble61

Tell her straight. If you beat around the bush or make excuses you will just prolong the inevitable. Be kind and thoughtful though. There is an art to breaking up. Do it right and both of you can move on and it won't come back to bite you in the ass. Here are some things that I have learned from past experience that DO NOT work. 1) don't tell her that her sister is better in bed and you would rather be with her, 2) don't ask for "one more roll in the hay" before calling it quits, 3) don't ask her for her best friends phone number as she is walking out the door, 4) don't tell her you are gay (yep, I did it. What a mistake!), 5) don't try to ease the blow by offering to give her any of your shit (unless of course your CD collection means absolutely nothing to you). As I said, the best course of action is straight ahead honesty. It may hurt for awhile but it will be over. Good luck to you! T

tkd_guy01

I agree with everyone else, be honest and tell her straight out.

PirateOZanzabar

ok im sorry but before i say nething. Gamble, have you seriously told a girl you were gay to break up with her????? omg that is too fing funny! lol. ok sry, now back to the topic.....

so i am kinda sorta maby in the same boat........... my girl is sorta getting annoying to me (just the things she says/does and the way she acts some times) but if i do break up with her, i will do what every one else has said (or just tell her im gay lol sry, back on topic) and tell her straight up that i don't feel the same as i used to. so basicly just tell her. no beating around the bush or anything like that.

dade murphy

Just freaking do it. She will get over it. I mean if you care that much then why dump her? Be tasteful and respectful and she will be just fine.

toomasio

yeah be like...."oh damn! yooooou cought me! well im done here i guess the relationship is over"

Maelindar

I agree with everyone here. Honesty and compassion are the key. The biggest area for judgement is what you tell her about the reason. It has often been enough for me to simply tell her that I am no longer in love with her and that I don't think we shoudl see each other any more.

I think the most critical part to be honest about is the relationship moving forward. I was bitten too many times by the "let's be friends" approach, as the one being broken up with will always think there is still a chance you will get back together regardless of what you say. In most cases, including the engagement I broke off, I simply cut-off contact all together. It is the most painful in the short -term, but at least she has the chance to move on instead of trying to win you back for the next few months or more.