had20z

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alright i need a little advice on what to do......my best friend/ guy i work with is outta town on a buisness trip for a week...today after work his wife calls me....i was like wtf? .....so i answer it and she says she needs help moving some furniture around....so im like alright ill be over in a while, i end up going over there and I move the shit around for about 30 mins after that we are standing around talking and the SHE made a move on me....i was like ok ....so we messed around for a bit and then i had to go out to eat with my brother and his familey....i get home and she calls me agian and she tells me 2marrow to come back over to "finish helping her" ......


what in the hell do i do? the guy is my best friend and i feel bad for it but she is also pretty damn sexy so ....i dunno....a part of me is like nah cant do it....then the other part is like fuck yea, he will never know.....


help?

polgas

best friend? and you "messed around for a bit" ? some friend you are ...

if i was the best friend, and i discovered this ... id kill you.
if i were you ... i wouldnt wanna be ya. how sexy is sexy? i mean to risk your life for ...

polgas

are you waiting for people to say : "go for it?"

even if they do, it will still be your fault.

if you hadnt "messed around" a bit ...
id consider telling your friend.

had20z

i dont want people to tell me anything but what they think....and i know its some what my fault...

OrdinaryGirl

You messed around with her? You didn't say no at the time? Oh man, either do it and take the consequences or don't do it at all and be a true friend. You already crossed the line in my books. She should have gotten a verbal slap in the face from you with your rejection.

TheMooninites

What a line.


Exactly.

Hmm many problems you have, one your messed with your best friends women plus there married which is even worse.

So how sexy is she I mean would doing her be worth the loss of your friendship and if you were to lose that would she drop you as they are married or would she keep screwing you and go into a relationship if they got divorced over her cheating.

Well, she is obviously looking for something else than your friend, if you don't end up doing her then tell your friend about her wandering eyes and hands so he can drop her or at least get counseling if he can't do that though telling him you may have to say you fooled around or you could lie and just say she came on to you and you backed off her.

If your gonna go for it be discrete because if she did what she did then she will be too so you probably could do her for a few months nicely if you two were discrete. If you two were really good you could do it longer.

This is the kind of subject people can't help to much in because its all about your personal morality, will you take the high road and tell your friends and still risk losing him as a friend unless you lie like I suggested if you go that route or take the other option and get some hot booty on the side for as long as you too can do it till you either get caught or one or both of you confess out of guilt.

If you can personally do her and not worry about feeling guilty then do it I guess but if you know you will feel guilty then don't.

If it was me personally in your situation as I got a girl now so it be no problem as if she would have pulled a move on me no matter how hot she is I would have backed off and called my bud up to tell him about his cheating women. Even if I didn't have a gf I still be like that now if the guy was a lousy friend and the girl was smoking I be more up to doing her most likely.

No matter your choice you have betrayed your best friend to a certain point the only question you have to ask yourself is do you wanna betray him further or stop and help him out by telling him about his cheating girl because who knows you may have not been the 1st guy she jumped on since being married to him.

Well, best of luck either way you go.

had20z

i feel bad about it and i have come to the conclusion.....fuck that bitch....she aint worth it.....even though i allready "messed" with it

its hard sayin that you would have told her no, in the heat of the moment....

OrdinaryGirl

Actually, I don't agree. I would never fuck with my best friend's man, no matter how hot he was or how much he came onto me.

kulotsalot

Ok, dude, listen up. I know someone personally who got into this same situation. I know a girl whose boyfriend left for Japan (I think) on a grant to train in ballet or something. Anyway, left her girlfriend in his best friend's care. Couple of years later, there's a baby on the way and the boyfriend is devastated. A few more years down the road the girl and the best friend get married and have a pretty good life together. Took a while for the original boyfriend to get back on his feet, but he turned out ok in the end.

Ultimately, you just gotta weigh which is more important - quick lay, or relationship with your best friend. Personally I wouldn't wanna be the third wheel and ruin a marriage so I'd stay away. UNLESS (and this is a very very rare exception, and I'm not really sure I would do it even if this was the case) he is like the love of my life and the marriage is rocky/not working/etc and the damage of wrecking a marriage is less than the eventual sigh of relief people will be doing when the whole thing blows over.

Very tricky situation, and based on a person's moral standards. I think it's safer to stay away. If you really want sex there are lots of unattached women out there, there's no reason to ruin your best friend's life if/when he finds out.

polgas

ok, so what do you really mean by "messed around with" ... your decision should be based on this ...

because the others are right, YOU may not be the only one she tried this on ... and other people will NOT be asking for advice.

bohica mike

If it were me, and I consider myself a hard-ass, I would look out for #1....myself. So I'd but that's just me. I don't like to have many friends anyway.....life is so much less complicated that way.

Juan.©amaney

You already fucked the friendship up, might as well get some ass out of it.

Seriously, no matter how hard you try, you can never restore the balance in your friendship and you will be lying to his face every day you don't confess. I'd hit it, then tell him about it and use the classic line, "I did it to prove to you she was a good for nothing whore."

Anyway, see you on a few weeks on Springer.

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ghosttalker

I would agree with Juan, your friendship will never be the same. And it's like if you don't pursue the girl then you ruined a relationship for nothing. But let's say you do pursue the girl. Then what? Are you foolish enough to think that she won't cheat on you?

OrdinaryGirl

Well, it doesn't sound to me like he wants a relationship or that he has even given the girl much more thought than just to notice she is damn hot. I don't think there is much there other than something physical. And how can you have a relationship with someone who cheated on their SO without wondering if she'd do it to you, too?