PirateOZanzabar

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so.... i am in a huge predicament.......
so before thanksgiving i was told by one of my best friends that one of her friends has had a crush on me for a long time. so i decided i would start to hang out with her to see what she is like and if i could see my self dating her. well everything is going great, we talk a lot, to all times of the night. and then near the end of winter break we start to mess around with each other.... than after a few weekends of me going down to her college, we start to talk less and less. so after about 3 weeks of us like never talking and i am still going down to visit her, i break it off for some reason, which at the time i really didn't know why i was breaking it off. so after about 2 weeks of thinking about it i realize that it was bc we had stopped talking and it felt like we were just friends with benefits or soemthing like that. and it just so happend that that weekend she was coming home bc our mutual friend was having a party at her house. so that night we get to talking, and i tell her why i broke up with her, and she said that she stopped talking to me bc she thought i was in it only for the physical side of the relationship. so we decide to get back together.

but in those 2 weeks when we were seperated, i started to talk to one of her really good friends that she has known since high school and goes to the same college. and i have now realized that i am starting to really like her friend, and also realize that she is completly opposite of me, and i mean the complete opposite. i have a very messy room. she thinks a messy room is when there are a few cabinits open and a few crumbs on the table. she seems to be really anal about having a clean room.... and then she also gets really stressed about any type of school work... while i harldy study at all (and i really fuck myself with that i know... but that is another story). and things just go on....

i guess what i am saying is...... should i break it off with girl 1 and try for her friend? or not? i just don't know what i should do.... grrr why does life have to be so confuzing?

tsmo

Thats a hard one man. They say opposites attract.

While I tend to agree with the theory. as my wife is the TOTAL opposite of me.


HOWEVER>> let me stress that.. its not always what its cracked up to be. as you said yourself.. she gets anal over a messy room.. is it worth that?

Your the one who has to listen to her bitch and complain all the time about everything you do.. if she is indeed your opposite..

I love to swim., and go on float trips.. my wife does not. that cuts out alot of trips for me that I would otherwise be taking to the river.. Thats just one small thing.. there are many others..

If you can look past the fact that you may not be able to enjoy alot of the stuff you normally would.. and even if shes ok with you enjoying that stuff. itll be without her cause shes not into it.. just little things like that..

this other chick.. is she more your style? what makes you like one over the other?

is it chemistry? or is it beauty?

Life is confusing to keep us on our toes. .if it wasnt, it wouldnt be nearly as fun.

Try dating them both.. see what happens..






**Per webrats rules Im inclined to say fuck them both and post pics**

michaeljohn

if you go for number 2 (who you have feelings for but she may not feel the same) you could lose both! Stay friends with number 2, keep seeing number 1.

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Juan.©amaney

Dude, one of them is long distance, the other one isn't. The choice is clearer than muddy water.

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PirateOZanzabar

sorry but the choice insn't all that clear.... since they go to the same school, and live in the same building....


well i was just thinking about this while i was in the shower, but this weekend me and girl 1 went down to visit girl 2, and alot of the times i would look up at girl 2(she was in her lofted bed, she is nice and short, and thats how i like 'em) she would avert her eyes really fast like she was looking at me. so i think that she does like me. and yeah i was thinking about staying ith girl 1 untill i know which one i like more..... cuz i really havn't spent all that much time with girl 2, but i have been talking to her for a while. so hopefully over the summer ill start to hang out with her and we will see how things go from there.


well girl 2 is more my style. she is a track sprinter, and i used to run track as well, she seems to be more outgoing than girl 1 (girl 1 is really shy, insecure, and low self asteem, and thats another big issue... i don't want to hurt her a second time by breaking up with her a second time) and since she is a sprinter, she is in better shape than girl 1.

and then as of right now its beauty over the chemistry. but thats only bc we have never really hung out at all, but as i said some were in here, i hope to be hanging out with her more this summer.


and how the hell would i go about doing this? i have always thought about it, but im pretty sure i wouldn't be able to pull it off.... specially since they are such good friends. and i doubt either of them would be cool with it.....

Juan.©amaney

I guess I missread what you wrote. I thought one lived closer to you than the other.

The choice is even clearer now. Get them drunk and "put your hands together." Think about it, if they are cool with it, SCORE! If not, then you might end up with one who is too different from you and leave you, or another one who was so uptight she left cuz she thought you just wanted to screw without giving you a chance to say much.

In all seriousness, I'd just stay friends with both of them. A little competition is a good thing.

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PirateOZanzabar

well that would be just awsome beyond words..... but for 1 i think all 3 of us are virgins.... so its not going to be all that great. just getting head, and eating them both out..... but it would be one hell of a way to loose my virginity and also i know girl 1 will not be about it at all.

and what do you mean by the "lil compitition never hurt ne one" thing? you mean dating both of them or something?

kulotsalot

How about just be flirty and friendly with both of them, without being with either one. I think what Juan is saying is that if they both like you (and they know that the other girl likes you too) and you haven't chosen which girl to hook up with yet, this will bring about a little competitiveness between the two of them, trying to one-up one another in terms of trying to get you to notice herself, not the other. This could possibly bring the shy girl out of her shell (she's not gonna back down from a fight, is she?). But play it carefully, don't make it seem like you're dating both of them at the same time, you don't wanna ruin their friendship and be in the middle of an ugly catfight.

That's what I think anyway.

PirateOZanzabar

well to that.... it seems like it would be all good, but im basicly already dating girl 1, so in order to do as you said i would have to break it off wiht her sorta.... and i don't know if girl 1 knows that girl 2 likes me. and girl 1 would not come out of her shell... she would prolly give up thinking that i would go with her friend cuz she is better looking... so i dno't know if that would really work....

Juan.©amaney

The sexy mod took the words right out of my mouth. Now, if I can get her to take something of hers out of my mouth...

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kulotsalot

My foot?

Aw shit I forgot who I was talking to.

Juan.©amaney

now you are just trying to get me going....

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PirateOZanzabar

wow... that lost me...
well just wanted to say thanks to every one for the advice... still nto sure what im going to do tho.... grr

Juan.©amaney

Pirate dude....all this confusion is the reason you still have your cherry. Seriously, it doesn't really seem like you are saving yourself b choice. More like saving yourself cuz you are ubber shy and complicate things too much.

Choose a girl...any girl. They are feeling almost the same as you are sex-wise. Goals and relationshipwise, girls are different. But if you want to get a partner, be monogomous, and get along, just be yourself, pic a girl who will be more compatible and shares the same interests, and go to town. There is no reason to complicate things by picking a girl who will drive you nutz, lives too far, is too jeallous/controlling, or has emotional baggage. Theres nothing better than having one who you can talk to, share things, and be open about who you really are...unless you like a challenge.

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