Melciah

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Been with this girl for about 2 months as a phone relationship, since she lived about 40 miles from me. I got a new car, so I could visit her..and we been seeing each other for about 3 days, and on the 3rd night, we had sex...She was a virgin and she's disgusted that the fact about she lost it in my car etc. I'm not one of those guys whos gonna just fuck and leave...I want to be with her...she thinks Im just a regular guy, but I asked her about 30 times before we did it..Can I get some advice?

HIJACKER

its only going to take time dude. You should've been enough of a man not to take her virginity in the car, but.. thats a whole other story.

THe only way she will see what you mean is over time. Keep seeing her, keep talking to her, and keep being truthful. That itself will show her your being serious and this question in her mind will fade away.

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AmorMiHombre

wow, it's like reading about my life.

treat her decently, take her out to places, and show her that she's not just some girl to fuck in your new car....and as hijacker said with time she'll see that you mean what you say.

shame on you for fucking her in your car...although she did let you, but still....

bleh, just take time and treat her right....

Indigenous

What I would do:

Even though you can't take back what happened, tell her you feel bad about how it all went down and want to do whatever you can to make things right. Offer a "do over".

Take her out to a nice, elegant resturant. The kind with cloth napkins. Then go dancing, take in some local theatre or go for a romantic walk in a scenic place. Treat her like she's a queen. Then go back to your place. Have it clean, presentable and with a romantic atmosphere. Candles, silk sheets, music, what ever you can think of and/or can afford. Then give her a romantic night of passion. The kind of night she wanted her first time to be.

The prevailing themes for the entire evening should be romantic, elegant and tasteful.

She gave you something that was very special to her. You need to prove to her that you're worthy of it. This is an opportunity to spare her the regret of having "wasted" her first time. Make it right.

Melciah

I've told her how bad I feel, and talked to my older bro about this, and I'm telling her ever since it happened, fri night, that I care about her, and Im not a guy whos just gonna leave.

It was silly of me to think she was ready, although I asked her like 30 damn times, I made her actually like kiss my ring with me to swear..I gave her my class ring on the first night we were together as like a couple thing..to show she's mine.

Talked to her today - and what she wants is for us to just talk and let it all out in person, so we can hold each other if tears flow, etc. I really think she still wants to be with me, or else she wouldn't be talking to me, just is hard. She wants us to just relax, and take it superslow, and just watch movies, and not go out so much etc. I was like, Im fine with that, as long as Im with you, it doesn't even matter where we are.

I just still feel horrible about it. , Like last night, all I could do, is cry..Yes men cry. I felt so sick, up until about 5am this morning, all I could do is feel like I'd throw up..it disgusts me, that I had a part in doing something this bad to a woman, and I've never done shit like this before.

Guess you don't all the time realize how much of a good thing you have until it gets thrown away, then that's the hard way of seeing it all in perspective. I'll let you guys know what happens in this epic saga.

-Thanks for the help guys.

Juli

Wow, the way you say this last comment sounds like there's something going on way above just you taking her virginity and her being afraid you're going to leave her. Care to enlighten?

Melciah

Juli..I cant thank you enough for your time today to talk. Anytime you ever need a guy or someone to talk to..I really owe you bigtime. Thanks again

snaptech

Just be patient and let time show that you care. Also, send her flowers with no note and see if she calls.

Juan.©amaney

Whoa whoa whoa, unless he raped her, she should be pissed at herself not just him!

What kind of self respecting girl meets a guy and talks to him over the phone and waits 3 days before she gives him the cherry only to be disgusted by him cuz it happened in his car? Her legs, her cherry, her choice. A guy will only get as far as a girl will let him...anything after that, is rape.

Don't take it too hard on yourself and just be true to what you truly feel for her.

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Melciah

Now - its like she said she wanted to be with me..Yet this other guy, who she confided into as a friend, and told him we had sex and she asked him not to tell anyone, 30mins after she told him he told 4 of his friends....Her best friend and I am trying to tell her not to like this kid..He's a lying bitch. Secondly..when he found out that she knew he told people..he yelled at her over the phone..This kid is no good. Yet I'm in a competition with him.

Im in a fucking struggle and it sucks. I don't just fuck a girl for fun..but cause I care, honestly..she's my 2nd partner..and im 19..Means something I think. Why's it gotta be like this? Sat she didnt know, sun night she wanted to work past it..and monday night we were fine, tuesday she didnt know, and tuesday night picked her up at 10 we talked, dropped her off at 12, she called me at 12:05 said to come back and get her..she told me she wanted to be with me, and we talked and kinda made out and stuff til about 230..now wednesday..she doesnt know again

When shes with me, she said she loves it..but ???..I dont understand.

tasthesose

man that brings back memories, just keep to your guns, make sure you keep telling her how you feel about it all.

confront this bastard!! tell him that messing up your friend's life is no longer an option for him.

yodaman06

hehe.. quite a pickle you're in there. in my limited experience with women (married 6 years) i can only say this. flowers go a long way, don't blame her for saying yes, on't try to "understand" cause you never will

OrdinaryGirl

How old is this girl, Mel?

Ryan

women are all crazy. you've got many years of this coming. put on your seatbelt and just ride it out.

remember that you're still young though, and she's not the only girl in the world. if it isn't meant to be, don't put yourself in a situation where it's going to ruin your life if it doesn't happen.

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