ims0punk

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I've been with my boyfriend for a year and nine months on Halloween. About a month or so ago, we broke up, because he was upset about my "attitude" and the "restrictions" I put on him. I didn't tell him he couldn't do anything, though. He made me promises and when I expected him not to break them, I was somehow wrong.

Since then, my attitude toward him has changed a lot. Lately, if he's blown me off or wanted to do shit without me, I've really just been saying fuck it. And being that I'm more laid back, he said a lot of shit is going to change. He said he wants me to be around him and his friends more, and he wants to do more with me.

But what do I do when nothing has changed? And every single time I talk to him, he tells me to stop and threatens to stop talking to me? And when I ask him a question, it seems like every "okay" (in reference to things changing) is empty? I know I don't deserve that.. I'm not at all bad to him, and I don't expect that much of him.

So why is it so hard for him to change one thing, while I reanalyzed my entire sense of self to change my attitude for him? I'm not asking him for anything even half as dramatic as that.

sillyrabbit

now you got me cryin...the sad truth is, theres lots of guys out there doin the same thing. speaking from very recent experience, i broke with my boyfriend not too long ago for some of the same reasons. i know exactly what you mean by broken promises. except my boyfriend wouldnt give me the ok's it was more like im sorry and i dont know what id do without you.

i didnt stay in my relationship as long as you have been because i knew it would eventually turn into the situation youre goin through now. i dont know the whole situation, maybe he just needs his own space and youre not givin it to him, but him blowin you off isnt right at all. it sounds like you care much more about him then he does you.

a great person is someone who makes you love who you are, not someone that makes you feel like you should change who you are for them. you said you know you dont deserve to be treated that way, so youre really answering your own question. you know what you have to do, but you know how hard its going to be to do it. knowone can make a decision like that for you, but some of us know how hard it is to let go of someone youve loved and cared for for so long. its not easy to do, but sometimes its the only way

Juan.©amaney

In a relationship, you can't DEMAND the other person change and threaten to leave. You are with them for who they are and who they become. When they change into something you do not like and absolutely can't live with, leave. You aren't married, and if it's THAT bad, there are other's out there who can make you feel as happy if not happier.

Remember, we are here to meet a few wrong people before we meet the right one. That way, when you meet the right one, you know what NOT to do again.

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Juana!

this guys are so nice....

my opinion.... dump the motherfreaker and wait for the person that you feel is the "right" one.... the one that loves, respect, admire, and honor for what you ARE and the one that you will do the same in return

I changed the habits of my pets.... but my husband with all his good and bad things I would never try to change (even if he leaves plates everywhere)... that is the way I felt in love with him... that's the way I accept him

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ims0punk

Yeah, but doesn't everyone deserve a chance? We're both busy working and going to school.. But still, shouldn't I be included in at least SOME of the shit that he does? I just don't know how to bring it about when he never wants to talk about it, and he gets all attitudey when I try. I don't know.. I think I'm going to wait it out a while to see if anything improves..