La_LovelyLady

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Does it really matter how many people your partner has slept with in the past? Or is it simply that...the past? :wiggle:

sonrisa10201

its the past, it doesnt matter to me, except for the fact that i want to know how many, just for my own reasons, i dont want to sleep with someone who has slept with 52 million other people without them being tested first. other than that, no i dont think it matters.

heres another question that i am curious about, do you share with your partner info about past partners, or experiences? not intimate details, but just basic things, like how many people you have been with, anything that you really liked and would like him/her to do? im not really sure how ask this question so it makes sense, but i am curious about my b/f's past, and he doesnt talk about it at all, should i not ask? is it odd that i even want to know?

OrdinaryGirl

I personally don't care. It's not like he could somehow look into the future and know to save himself for me. He was living his life, I was living mine....as long as he chooses to be with me in the here and now, who cares about the past. If he wanted to be with them, he still would be. I fear the ghost of no girls from the past.

That being said, I am really not interested in sexual details. I especially don't want to know that so-and-so was better at this or that. You want me to do something differently, then tell me what you like but not in the context of some other chick. And I really don't want to know if you hold a secret flame in your heart for some other girl. I am interested in what things caused your relationships to fail or really bothered you in the attempt to understand and avoid pitfalls, but numbers are a useless gauge.

clamsrus

Nothing worse than old baggage carried through from past relationships especially if they ended acrimoniously.....so I agree with OG re. pitfalls. Many people project the problems of previous relationships onto their current partner and recreate what should be history for them. I would be more concerned that they learned from their experiences......and hey if practice makes perfect then you could be the lucky recipient between the sheets......but there is something rather sad about someone emotionally compromised by their previous relationship, who can't start with a clean slate....even if they want to.....and may still make the same mistakes in anycase
Sonrisa.......don't pick scabs unless you think you can make the wound heal faster....he'll tell you when and if

jds_49

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doesnt really. just a number

Indigenous

It only matters if you already know. Or at least thats the way it seems.

Insaniteus

Doesn't matter to me either. Since I'm saving myself for love, though, it may be good to find a woman with experience so at least one of us knows what the hell we're doing lol.

-Insaniteus-

sonrisa10201

that honestly kind of puts in into perspective, i shouldnt push him to talk about it if he doesnt want to... thank you clamsrus! i have read quite a few of your posts and you always seem to know what to say!

Stumpy

What's in a number? There are several in my past who I didn't know, just used each other as scratching posts for a night or a weekend, and one that I truly loved. What is the difference how many girls I've been with, when only one had any sawy over my heart ... that's far more important.

Provided you don't receive an "I'm sorry I gave you crabs" card the day after you've had sex with your significant other ...

sonrisa10201

hahaha, an im sorry i gave you crabs card, thats funny

amanvell

it does matter, she might be a bit 'loose'

bpboyz

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For a one night stand no. For someone you may be serious about, Hell yes it matters, one day, she might be kissing your kids with that mouth.

jackal12

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You cant turn a hoe into a housewife fool

bpboyz

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I dont think your calling me a fool, maybe you should read what i wrote one more time einstein.

For a one night stand no . For someone you may be serious about, Hell yes it matters , one day, she might be kissing your kids with that mouth.