Mr. Marti

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ok so here is the history. In high school i was in a 3.5 year relationship with a chick that ended kinda shitty. well through out that time i had a friend that i always kinda had a thing for but we were both in relationships so i never really acted on it and we were very close friends. now that was 4 years ago and we are great friends and i've always kinda stayed quite about how i liked her. we have never kissed or anything.

Well last night we went to Fridays, had a few drinks and it was about 2am and neither of us were tired so i asked if you she wanted to watch a movie or something and so we went in my house to watch Old School. Well everything was cool, we were cuddling together and we opened a bottle of champagne.

Well after a while we stared talkin about how she kissed a chick and thought a woman kissed better than men so i just decided to kiss her for the name of men everywhere :happycow: . she looked at me, said "never mind" and we continued to kiss. We ended up on the floor kissing and slowly clothes started coming off and she begin to stroke me and gave me the best head i have ever gotten in my whole life! well i went to take off her shirt and she stopped and said that she was afraid things would be ruined between us and how i friendship meant too much to risk ruining. i told her i didnt want us going anything she wasnt comfortable doing and we kissed some more and almost went all the way and she stopped again. She said "can we still just cuddle and go to sleep and i said ofcourse. we got into bed and kissed a little more and worked some hand magic and then we both just fell asleep. She left this morning and everything seemed fine....

so now my question is what should i do? should i try to pursue a relationship with her like i wanted or do i wait and see what she says or what? and keep in mind that before this we had never kissed or anything. i really like her and i know she has somewhat the same feelings for me but she just got out of a 5 year relationship....... this is soo weird because i am normally upfront with all girls, this one just intimidates me for some reason. i mean im 22 for gods sakes hahaha so weird.

i dont know what to do. Please help me out here folks.

Martin

OrdinaryGirl

Hmmm.

Sounds like she values your friendship and doesn't want to ruin it. She definitely wanted to try taking it further though. "Girls are better kissers than guys"?? Definitely a lead-in line, hoping you'd do exactly what you did. I've used lead-in lines before and that was one, alright.

I understand being intimidated by this one, as you have liked her for so long and it becomes something huge in your own mind. Hopefully you can come around and be straight up with her, though. Communication is what will keep things from being all fucked up.

Ask her if she wants to go for coffee/lunch/a walk on the beach...something nonsexual, not a date, dinner, movie...and just lay it on the line. Tell her you don't want to ruin your friendship either, but you've felt more for her for a while and would like to give it a try. She may not realize that this is the result of a lot of thought on your behalf and may have thought it was spontaneous, sudden, and not thought out. Knowing that you've actually given it a lot of thought may make it easier in her mind to give it a try.

Good luck! Let us know what happens!

Mr. Marti

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wow that was a great reply. thank you very much.

Mr. Marti

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no one else wants to help me out here. come on folks.

tubaman

I have to agree with OG. Take it slow, well, slow down at least. It's appears to me that you both have similar feelings, and want the same thing. Just be careful, and don't try to make it work if it doesn't. There's always a possibilty, that if you don't push the issue, and try to make it work, you'll be able to stay friends. If it comes naturally, go for it, if you have to work for it, you'll have a better chance of losing your friend.

Juan.©amaney

Dude! Don't rock the boat. She gave you head and fears going too far? Whats wrong with just head every once in a while. She's ur friend so she doesnt have much to say if you hook up with anyone else and every once in a while after some drinks, she is cool with giving you head? ROCK ON!!! :rock:

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Mr. Marti

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well its been three days now and we havent spoken since. damn im starting to kinda worry things are gonna suck from here on out. well im gonna call her tomorrow and see whats up and take her out to starbucks orsomething and feel out the situation.

OrdinaryGirl

Just don't get all weird on her. No fidgeting and avoiding her eyes and acting all awkward or you'll make her so uncomfortable that she will avoid you next time. Just try to be you. Put the blowjob out of your head and concentrate on the person whose company you enjoy. Think of how you used to act before the incident and try to emulate that. Because if you let what happened the other night be this huge huge thing that overtakes everything else, it will just kill the whole friendship. Bring it up later on, if you like, but don't make it the whole reason for calling her up and taking her out.

millhouse

I don't have must to say except, I would have to agree with everything OG has said so far. Just be honest with her and try not to get all weird when you do get a chance to talk with her.

Good luck.

Mr. Marti

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damn, well im kinda getting the cold shoulder. She said she is busy this week. I asked her if we were ok and he reply was "yeah". i am going to go super slow on this and not push anything.


the blowjob is not what im worried about here. i havent been able to find someone i've been into since my ex 2 years ago and i dont want to ruin the chance at a good thing.


Thanks for all the support WR.

Marti

OrdinaryGirl

You need to let her come to you now. Obviously she needs to sort this out in her head and figure out where the boundaries lie. If you make the next move, you'll push her away. It's important that you leave her alone and let her decide to come to you, as hard as it may be. And I understand that feeling of being into someone and feeling like something has happened that has pushed them away. But trust me, pushing it will only make it worse.

Hang in there. Sometimes we girls just need a little time to figure out what we want.

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girls suck! damn this really blows monkey ass. i would never have done anything if i would have known i might loose her friendship. this blows. i did talk to one of her friends and she brought up that she had heard we had a good weekend so im really curious to find out what she meant. she wouldnt elaborate which sucks but her friend said that she was happy to see her with a good man.... damn it what does that mean. why dont you woman ever mean what you say or say what you mean?!

Juan.©amaney

Keep ur cool, play the game and beat her at it. right now she is worried about what ur reaction might be, if she could read what ur writing here, she'll freak! Keep ur cool and wait for her to come to you, dont push anything or ask to talk or NOTHING!

LEave things be, eventually she'll think ur over what she has been going through and come back. Get her drunk again and have things happen OR keep her as a friend, your choice.

Just quit tripping!

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OrdinaryGirl

Oh my god, stop freaking out! You're gonna fuck it up! She told her friend she had a good weekend! That is awesome. Now just sit tight, be cool and wait.