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I recently came back in contact with a friend from high school, and we've hit it off REALLY well. I'm pretty certain she is gonna ask me out by the end of the week, but...(there's always a but) while talking to my friends who are also friends of hers, they say she is into doin drugs, which i am really not into. How would you go about bringing this subject up without it being obvious that someone told me of her supposed drug use. thanks in advance!

kronas

if you want my advice just ask her what she thinks about various things, alcohol, etc etc then mention drugs, read up on it and ask her for her input, say your pretty relaxed about drugs but you will not engage in the activity.... she might come out with it, id be weary of letting others influence you, remember when it comes to relationships people are always out to backstab you...

so be careful..

jeffc574

Go on the date. Have a good time. If it comes up, answer truthfully. Beyond the first date, ask her about drug use. Dating a stoner may be fun in the short term, but will not be a winning combination. But, she may be willing to stop for you. Don't bet on it.

If she says she doen't do drugs would you belive her? If not, don't bother asking the question.

jestor

Just to take this one step further, If she said she did drugs after the date, would you still want to see her? Don't set yourself up for disappointment.

clamsrus

drugs cost.....financial, social, and often by compromising principles.

I'd want to know how she feeds her habit, and decide if I want to be part of her scene.
People involved in drugs always always have contacts, routes of supply etc etc...and so you need to decide if you want to be labelled by association...because you will be whether you partake or not!

Dummy

You said that the friends who told you about her (possible) drug use are also her friends, so prepare that she will find out sooner or later that they told you. If you're *really* serious about her you have to be honest, so don't hide that you've been warned.


Just my 2 cents
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