CWB

i agree with backdoor jesus' thoughts on the matter ... it is a nice condensation of some of the points presented here . his ideas as to finding out what the truths are (as well as the reasons for doing so) seem to me to be sound and rational .
kudos man ...

Sagaris

It is your business as it's your family too. The action of spying on your mum seems to have arisen from her caring for you in perhaps an over zealous way, for which you should be grateful not hurtful.
I can only advise you of the way I would want my son to treat the situation, and that is to reveal to mum that you are aware of the fact that she is cheating and if she wants to save the marriage and her family there is only one course of action and it is up to her to act on it now.
Whether or not she decides to tell dad is up to her ,as many have said you can't un-know something and once he learns of her deeds it will take an awful long time for him to begin to trust again.
Finally do not put yourself in the position where you might be taking the blame for the break up, it would be very hard to deal with further down the line if things do go pear shaped . Best of luck, try and remain positive and up beat, it could just pull a family in crises back to happier times.

jfmotorsports

Learn to stay out of other peoples affairs.Dont get me wrong,if someone falls down,help them up but if they fell down,broke a leg,scratched thier face,and skinned thier knee.Leave them Down. Marriage is more complicated than most big business contracts. You are tryng to put yourself right in the middle of world war III.As thier child you have a responsibility to be there for both of them in a time of crisis.Dont form alliances with your parents,play the "red cross"role in this situation and comfort both of them.Sure your mom may be throwing some sucker punches,but it sounds like to me he has been getting them for a while and has built up some tollerence.Just make sure if she decides to change up her mode of attack , you stop her from giving him the big whammy.This advise comes from a person who is considered a life councellor by dozens of peeps that are around me,i've been where youre at at least 50 times.Always remember the red cross role it can help you thru out your life.Its hard to be a cop,firefighter,and a C.P.A. all in the same person!? A little warning about the "w33d". i've done it from the age of 12 for 24 years ,now I'm working with a team of half baked Dr.s to get my health back on track after years of extra additives in my "w33d".""""PRIVACY"""", If my son did what you did ,I would thank him for the imformation,and then give him the ass bashing in the noggin for stepping over "The Privacy Line!

shiiboi

Mom has spies on son in school? Son spies on Mom with keylogger? Mom cheats on Dad?

There are deep problems here. The best thing to do is try to get some family counseling with a good therapist. If your mom and dad split up, it's because of problems in their relationship which are not your fault, and there's probably nothing you can do about it. All this spying and secret alliances are just making a rough situation worse.

booyal

this is the best response i have seen yet... it is what i have wanted to say but havent been able to find the words so i thank you for that shiiboi :P and hes totally right your whole family should get some help ^^

durden

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wow. its gotta be hard to see this happening. but, i will say a couple things. i agree with a few of the aboves...keep as many people out of the loop. dont blackmail...that is your mother. your dad should know, he deserves to know. and keep your cool. your mom and dad both are going through a weak time in their relationship. try to look at it from outside of the box. they need to fix things. do all that you can to help them, but dont be ignorant of what they used to have.

lovesit

^^Better than I could have said it.

For the life of me, I can't understand adultery. If you don't want to be with someone anymore, for God's sake have a spine and leave the person to start anew.

jimmy the chef

tell your dad he needs to no what is going on. if you dont wont to tell him sum how set it up that he finds them togther. sorry to hear that your mum dand dad r not worken out. be good

jmb8523

I would highly advise against this. It's probably the worst situation you could put your dad in to find out. I agree with a lot of the stuff that was said earlier. It really wasn't your place to spy on your mom, but since you know now, I believe it's best to give her the opportunity to come clean.

gamble61

I am with Jimi here...shame on you! If you must do something....talk to mom. But then guess what...YOU look like a shit. I say stay out of it because chances are YOU have no idea what is happening between Mom and Dad...have you spied on him? And the blackmail route....Trust me, you will regret that....Just hide your head in the sand my friend and let them sort it out. Trust me they will and never let either of them know that you know. You will look bad to one of them either way. Remember....curiosity killed the cat!

maggiesdragons

Ignorance is bliss, but now that you have gone too far you have a few choices.
In the order I would do them:
1. Tell your mom that you know what is going on, give her the chance to do the right thing and find out why she did them
2. Stay out of it; let nature take its course.
3. Show your dad what you have seen, maybe he already knows.
Don’t blackmail your mom, she will loose all respect for you which might come in hand when you get older. You never know when you will have to hit her up for a co-sign for a car or a house.

gamble61

To quote maggiesdragons:

"Don’t blackmail your mom, she will loose all respect for you which might come in hand when you get older. You never know when you will have to hit her up for a co-sign for a car or a house."

Now that is some practical advice my friend!