mike4287

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Hey guys I was just trying to get some feedback to see if its just me being different or whatever. But I have dated this girl for about 2 months and have been really close for even longer and all the sudden she got her nipples pierced. Both of them the little ring kind. When she told me this I got highly upset and just wanted to lose it. Personally I think its kinda trashy and a major turn-off. Is this me just being overprotective or do others feel the same way? Thanks for any input

Cinnamon

I think you may be a little on the overprotective side. Piercings are removable, and as long as she isn't showing the world her new accessories, then I wouldn't think twice about it.

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facepeeler

that's not being over protective...a bit psycho, yes...but not over protective.

personally, Im not into chicks that have their nips pierced, but I won't fault them for it. I definately won't blow up on a girl because she has them done. If cinn *my gf* went and got hers done while Im gone this weekend, hey...right on...


if your girl wants to get her nips pierced, so be it...she will definately like them when they heal up, will make her nips ultra sensitive, which will be a payoff for you...

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bakaduin

Go with the flow. You cant be controlling especially about something like this.

TheAman

it sounds like she's more open minded than you

jegman

Have you asked her why??? If not, why not??? Like facepeeler said, Ultra sensitive! Not a bad thing...enjoy!!

GO FOAMY!!!!!

mike4287

i asked her why she says its cute and kinky idk how she sees them as cute though...

Cinnamon

Well, if she sees them as cute, then maybe it'll give her a little more self confidence. And like fp said, it'll be a pay off for you since they will add to her sensitivity. I think it may take some time for you to get used to, but does it really matter in the big picture? If it does become that big of an issue, you two need to sit and talk about it.

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jeffc574

It is odd that she did not ask your opinion first. But it is done. Does she get into it when you play with them? Do you? I am assuming she went to a clean salon, etc.

In short, if you can't get over it, or it continues to be a big deal to you, you may need to move on. If not play with them, dude.

cowboy085

i can see where you are coming from, but flippin out on her is not the solution. personally i find that on the right girl nips pierced are amazing, but it was odd that she didnt ask you anything about it. i think you are better off just talkin about it with her and askin why she got them, and why she never asked you about it....gl with the situation

duckykiss

I've had 29 piercings, 6 of which were my nipples. (Not all 29 or 6 were at the same time) I never asked my (ex) husband for permission to get anything pierced, because it is my body and he always said he loved me for me. At first he never said he had a problem with it. He actually told me, "it's your body, do what you'd like." And he paid for a few of my ear piercings as well as an eyebrow ring. Then one day he went off on me, freaked out about how ugly they were, how I was only doing it in a self-mutilation state of mind (like I got pierced instead of cutting myself or some crap) and made me take all my piercings out. Forcefully.

Anyways, moral of the story is, if it bothers you, it bothers you. If you're not comfortable with it now, most likely you never will be.

My ex and I ended up getting a divorce because I felt he didn't see me as anything more than a freak. Six months after I cut my mohawk, he told me "I'm beginning to realize you're still you, Just with a different haircut!!"

To me, hairstyles, tattoos, and piercings DO NOT change your personality any more than boob jobs, tummy tucks, penile enlargements or glasses. Personal decorations are just that, and since she said they're kinky and cute, that's probably all the further it will go. Just please, please be honest with her. Be honest with her, don't fake it if you don't like it, because who knows, she may really get into piercings and you'll eventually break down and tell her and it'll fuck it all up. If it seems like it's going to be a problem, just go ahead and break it off now and spare yourself the indignation/frustration/tendency to want to lose it.

If you think they're trashy and unnaceptable, that is your opinion and you're entitled to it. If you can live with it, Awesome! If not, Don't! It really is that easy... Trust me, it will be easier on you and her both to do it that way than to hide your disgust and contempt for her nipple decorations and let all the stress give you ulcers or cancer or some crap. Shit, my husband almost went to a shrink because of my piercings. *sigh*

Good luck, man, and make a decision you KNOW you can live with...

skycatcher

Hmm, odd. It's a personal taste kinda thing. I ended up getting both my nipples pierced (i'm a guy) and I would recommend it to anyone really. Since then they're more sensitive and it definately does add more fun to the sex when your partner orally stimulates them... hell at the beginning a nametag touching it would feel cool.

Then my GF got one of hers done while I was away as a surprise to me and I loved it.


It's all about being on the same page. Now I don't entirely agree with doing it while your partner is away since I feel that even simething simple as a piercing should be discussed in a relationship, but the fact is that you can either deal with it or not.

Talking about your feelings and the affects it will have on the relationship to make the other person understand what's going on in your head is always the best idea to get a clear understanding of what will happen next.

Lazer

wow.. this is the stuff stalkers are made of..
To possesive.... you've dated a couple months.. I don't think you are in the posistion of needing to know her every move yet..
She has her life, You have yours...

You wanted to lose it? Whats that about? you don't own her....

Anibal

im not into that sort of things either but you havent dated her long enough to be a part of her decition process... if u think that u cant continue dating her cause of her pierced nipples then u have to talk to her although my best guess is that that conversation will end with her breaking up qith you for being such a controlling freak... 2 months is not a long time ...