cowboy085

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well my girl and i just broke up last weekend. i really didnt think that it was serious but it is, and i cannot get her off my mind. we dated about 5 months and she was the best i ever had! i loved and still do this girl. i really thought that she was the one for me. there really wasnt a good reason why we broke up, but i dunno, i just wish i were still with her. i cant get her out of my head. i have no motivation to do work, homework, eat, sleep, i cant ever jerk it for gods sake.....i know most are prolly thinking that i just need to go out and bang some other chick but i really just want her! only her. this is the first girl i never thought about cheating on, i treated her so great, did anything she wanted, and im here alone. i need help im going insane! i want to just go to her house with 100000 roses but i know it wouldnt change a thing, this was my first true love, and my heart is so broken.

zeppy

It'll heal with time... just take it easy and do some things that you've wanted to do but haven't had the chance to. Stay busy... go out with friends and stuff to keep your mind occupied.


It'll take a while, but all things will pass eventually.

cowboy085

i just want to go to her house w/ flowers and bring her out on a date we havent really gone out much lately b/c of lack of funds, do you think that could be a reason???

zeppy

Short answer: No. I've maintained relationships being a broke ass before and it had little if any consequence. If it is a problem to her, she's not worth your time anyway.

Suciniac

Dude if that's the reason, I don't know why you are even bothering with her.Besides I always tell everybody on this type of things to ask the girl upfront.You know, we all can give you advices and make out theories about why she left, but it would be a lot easier to ask her directly.Only she knows what going on insider her head.

It's like this, you see a beautiful chick in a bar (high shool,anywhere) whom you've had a crush for a while and she's looking back at you too.What do you do?It's pretty obvious you ask her out.Maybe she'll say no maybe she'll say yes and may even had a crush on you.Who knows until you ask her.
In your case maybe you'll be able to work it together and get back or she may say I don't want to be with you becaus, so and so and so.Atleast you don't have to live in uncertainty and better still you will know what you need to work on in your next relationship.

So, go ahead have a serious talk with her.Whatever the outcome I know you will feel much better.

Sagaris

Get your arse in gear , go and tell her how you feel. Don't expect the truth in return , that may take time , but at least she is going to know your true feelings.

All relationships have their ups n downs, it seems like the pair of you have got into a bit of a rut and now is the time to put in the effort (not money ) before all is lost.

Good Luck and sorry for the rushed brief reply

cowboy085

thx for all the replys, im not so sure i ment about spending money, but more of spending more of my attention. now about having a seriouse talk with her, i have tried, she says nothin except "brendan, i dont know what to say right now, you no im not good at these conversations." i dunno, i'm standing at a fork in the road and dont know which way to go...

zeppy

When she says that, just say "thats ok... I just have to say a few things. I want you to hear them and I hope that you give me a response soon. You know where you can reach me." (or something to that effect) Say your piece, and bow gracefully out of the scene. If she doesn't want to or doesnt feel able to have the conversation, that's fine. At least you got to say your piece and you'll feel better.


Mainly though, just give it time.

Mule_Hammer

Dude, man it up and tell her. If she doesn't want to talk, fine, just ask her to listen. If she doesn't want to listen, move on, you're just wasting your time. I'm in a very similar situation, I even wrote a thread about it ("WTF is wrong with me"). Actually, my ex lives in NJ too.

ndawg104

just like zep said time and keep occupied and let her know what u need to say and everything.

cowboy085

i went there today after class and runnin around. and like some have said, i told her everything, i think it was a good step forward. unlike most of the time, she did respond with somethings, but not as much as i hoped. im not going to give up on her, and am willin to wait as long as i can, i know she is the best for me. i appriciate all the help you guys have been.

Mule_Hammer

Good luck buddy.

zeppy

I think you're setting yourself on a course for more disappointment though, man. Don't wait around for her if she isn't willing to at least give you a full, honest response.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but I think she's done with the relationship from what I'm reading. I'd say your best course would be to just let time heal the wounds, move on, and look for some of the other proverbial fish in the sea.

Good luck.

Suciniac

I second that.Usually when a girl hasn't a good explanation it's bad news.Maybe she's telling the truth, she honestly doesn't know why she don't like you no more.Just don't walk out of her life but most importantly don't hold on to the hope that she will be back.There's only so much you can do.If it doesn't work out then that's it.You've got to move on.
I will not make out a feel good story and say you will get over it soon.It takes time and you won't be able to completely forget her.Man, last time I broke up with my girl, I was miserable for about 2 years.I still haven't forgotten her but when I look back at those two years now,I feel like such and ass.I sometimes bump into her in the streets and I just couldn't believe that was the girl who meant the world to me.
Latly time heals every wound and laughter is the best medicine and remember that a problem is as big as you allow it to be.It's all on you man.So, keep a positive attitude and move on.