cowbell66

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Ive been going out with this girl i met 2 years ago for almost a year now. Im a senior in high school and so is she.

Its safe to say this is a good relationship, and were very understanding. I have had other relationships, but nothing this serious (and her and i are both still virgins)

Now, normally, when it comes to sexual acts (for her its been only handjobs so far) im a normal stamina man (5-7 minutes, or so) and for the first couple of months it stayed like that.

But lately in the last month or so, ive noticed that its dropped, dramtically. Just the other day, i had to stop her only a minute into it so i didnt "go" in my pants.
And with the prospect of oral sex and sex itself coming into play rapidly, i dont want to suck completely.



Now, i know the only true way to get better is to do it, and no matter what the first time will be kind of sucky, but even when it comes to handjobs, what could be my problem?
Is there some way to "train" myself to last longer?



(we talked about this, and shes completely understanding, but its still very embarassing to me)

Patito

Usually, when it comes to sex you want to be able to last long enough to fully satisfy your girl... but most girls would rather you be done as quick as possible with everything else. Sex is completely different for different people, I know people who can't orgasm at all from a BJ/HJ and others who may last hours during sex but only a couple minutes orally. It could be that she's just learning what you like better, and you're less nervous in front of her which is allowing you to orgasm quicker. Don't look at it like you're only going to last a minute if you guys decide to have sex.

If you want to make yourself last longer, the best thing to do is know your body and be able to tell when you're getting close or not. For me, when I feel myself getting a little too close, I'll slow it down or even stop for a few seconds to allow myself to cool down some. I used to last only a few minutes, I even used the desensitizing condoms. Now, a quickie for me is like 15-30 minutes.

VIVIX

It's all a mindgame. Just as you said, "with the prospects of sex." That could be your whole problem, you're just getting excited in your head and thinking of nasty thoughts about all the probabilities you and your girlfriend will experience. Think of something else that is VERY NON-SEXUAL to you. Try to imagine seeing your grandma naked.

Of course Patito's tricks work just as well. It's different for everyone I guess, it's all about the human psyche.

Great avatar, by the way.

3nigm4tic

thinking of something non-sexual, trees, butterflies, or nothing at all. For me anyways, watching or not watching HJ/BJ makes a big difference in how long I last. Alternatively, is she doing something different now? Is there something you really like that she's figured out how to do? that might have something to do with it. Have the situations in which you are doing it changed at all? there's a bunch of factors to think of.

cowbell66

well, in terms of if shes doing anything different, yes a little

she went from having very hard/firm HJ, to more soft, sensitive ones (ie, better)


also (and this might be the problem) a lot of times im fingering her while shes giving me a HJ, so its kind of hard to think of anything else non-sexual
should i try it so that im not doing anything when she gives me a HJ and see how it works?

silliousbgoat

I agree with Vivix, you probably got in a groove where a HJ was good and you were relaxed, and now with the excitement of what is coming up, you probably have even better thought in your head, which are making you more aroused.

Remeber a lot of chicks dig it if you are fast everynow and then, it makes them feel sexy. Just remember to satisfy her too.