The Next Move
 

Ok so some of you more active posters, like Juan, should remember me from my oddly popular post about "taking a break and what it means to you".

Well now we're in a sticky situation. I'm over my ex (yay for me), been talking to other girls and hangin out with em and what not, but there's one i've been particularly fond of. My ex's best friend. >_<.

Seeing as it is just about month-2 months ago w broke up and how i'm still pretty much great friends with my ex, I know I should be able to move on w/ whoever i want whenever, but to be respectful to my ex, should i just wait until she moves away? Or just start seeing her friend? The three of us are pretty close so it would be nigh impossible to keep it from my ex.

Ready, set, help me for the love of God!

Re: The Next Move
 

Personally, I don't think it should be a problem... but from experience, it will be a problem! Unless you're willing to brave massive amounts of shit from your Ex, I'd suggest waiting until she's out of the picture.

Hope I helped!

Re: The Next Move
 

Oh god. Not the ex's best friend!!! Do you LIKE making your life complicated?? ;)


Are you SURE you couldn't find another girl to be interested in? I mean, you can see whomever you choose, but this is really going to get sticky no matter how you go about doing it.

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The heart wants what it wants. Weigh out what you want more, your ex's friendship. a relationship with the new girl, or a drama free life.

I personally wouldn't do it because chances are, if they are friends, they are alike in a lot of things and if it didn't work out with the ex, it won't work out with the friend. Besides, why jeapordize their friendship with each other.

Wait until the friend makes the move...or you know the ultimate best solution evar...:)

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I'm saying go for it...you MIGHT get the chance to get a threesome with them. :naughty:

For real, if you can handle the shit you're going to get from this (which I personally don't think you are), then go for it...if not, then I'd stay away. There are plenty of girls out there to hook up with.

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why add more difficulty to your life? You should weigh everyone's fellings in this scenario.

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Do what you want to do. If your ex dosen't like it, thats not your problem. She's your EX.

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well i sorta did this.... except it was a few years after i broke up with my now current gf's best friend. and we had been hanging out and fooling around for a while, and not trying to sneak around or nething. (my current gf actually asked my ex if it was ok that we dated and the ex said yes.) but then a few weeks ago the ex goes balistic and starts freaking out saying that its not cool that her best friend was now dating her ex and blah blah blah.... and now all of her friends hate her and her sister :) stupid bitches...... the funny thing is, she broke up with me for some reason and we didn't talk for a very long time, and even when we hung out together (this is only bc some of my best friends have been friends with them since they were very lil kids) and the ex wouldn't even acknowlege that i was in the same room let alone the same planet..... it was just a really stupid situation so yeah....


so basicly what im saying is if you want to go through a lot of shit and make many peoples lives suck for a while (trust me, other people WILL be pulled into this). but if you are willing to go through all that shit and know that the girl you want to be with will stay with you through all the crap then i guess go for it. some people need to grow up. you and your ex didn't work so if she does get all bitchy that you want to date her best friend, then fuck her, she needs to grow up.