What's a man to do??
 

Okay, I'm "invited" to a baby shower Friday night (05.23.2008) with my new lady. :eek3: What's the use of a man at a function such as this? I've never been to something like a baby shower; I mean, I always thought this event was the realm of the XX chromosomes.

I know most all the people expected at the party; hell, my girlfriend is most of 'ems supervisor. Most of these women I work very closely with...

Here's what I'm thinking I can do:
a) I know food will be served. I figure I'll "man" the grill. I spent two decades in a firehouse. I can cook; I've never seen an anorexic fireman... :graffin:

b) the "dad-to-be" is attending; I can offer him some man support.

c) beer will be on hand. I can cook on the grill, support the dad, and drink lots of cold, frothy, adult beverages.

What am I about to get into??

Re: What's a man to do??
 

enjoy the free food and stay quiet unless engaged. I would say there might be some cool gifts but it will all be lame baby stuff

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Yeah, the free food is an enticement. The gifts may be neat, but will be strictly for the child. I think I'll stay on the back porch by the grill and goof off.

I wonder if the woman hosting the party has wireless internet access? If so, I can hang on the back porch and play with the WR gang!

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You guys act like socializing sans butt slaps and high fives is just utterly impossible. :rolleyes:

Just act as if you weren't forced to come to the party and as if you are having a good time. The women will mostly take care of the rest. Just don't be a grouch.

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I doubt their will be any real socializing happening with all the baby blubbering going on. I love talking but don't see a baby shower as a great opportunity, unless you can talk about work?

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Jabooty: I can see kulots point; I'm a dad and spend every possible moment with my son. I have taken care of him by myself since he was an infant. The baby thing doesn't bother me at all.

I guess I'm not sure what to do with this group of people. Yes, I work with them; they know me pretty well; and these folks helped put me in the same place at the same time with my girlfriend. I know they think I'm an okay person, otherwise, they sure wouldn't have taken a hand in putting my girlfriend and I together.

I just haven't interacted with them on this level. Maybe it's the idea the only two guys will be the dad and I; I know him casually. Hell, I can't remember his name...

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Dude it's an estrogen-fest. I suggest you ditch diplomatically.

Baby showers attended as a couple inevitably lead to the "gee what if we got married & have a baby someday" post-mortem conversation & I am not so sure you want to go there at this early stage of your relationship.

Take the same attitude towards attending weddings as a couple. Attending weddings as a single are great - many opportunities for random hosing of inebriated overly romanticized chicks; attending them as a couple only leads to frustration for you because you can't nail the prevalent poon & a similar irritating "what-if?" conversation with the GF.

ugh. I would rather have dental work.

I'm just sayin'...

Re: What's a man to do??
 

Stand at the food area and eat. Walk around and engage in small talk with people.
Eat more...

Re: What's a man to do??
 

tell your lady that you wouldn't invite her to a traditionally gender skewed event, so fuck her for suggesting you attend.

If that doesn't work; get shitfaced beyond belief and give her every reason for not ever suggesting such a fucked thing again.

That's what I've done in the past. The punishment period passes rather quick.

Coed showers FTMFL! Bitches use it as a sounding board to see how tightly they have you by the balls. It's all up to you bro!

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I don't see why you were invited to begin with. I understand that you work with these people, but if it's just you and the daddy to be, I don't think you should have been asked to go. If it was totally co-ed, then sure. Because then it would be just another party except with baby gifts. I personally wouldn't have put you in that situation.

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agree completely with backdoorjesus, sometimes we do that to "drop" some hints... it is like when I invite my husband to a store and he thinks we are just watching... but suddenly... that beautiful dress calls me... he does the same when we go "watching" to frys... or saying the best buffalo wings are cooked in hooters.

The other possibility is that she wants to "show" you to the girls... I like doing that when my friend come and he serves us... sometimes he even wears my panties jajajaja just kidding


Juana! McGraw

Re: What's a man to do??
 

Mkay wait. I seem to have missed the part where you'll be the only dude there aside from the dad. Yeah, that'll be weird. If you can't ditch, then you should probably do grill duty and let the ladies take care of the gushing and squealing elsewhere in the house.

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I've been married 37 years and never been to one. I wouldn't feature being couped up with a bunch of jabbering women. That's about as much fun as a black man have at a KKK rally. I guess if you can grab the dad and head off to the nearest strip joint for the afternoon it be alright, but free food just ain't worth it!!!

Re: What's a man to do??
 

I went to my first baby shower 2 weeks ago for a coworker.

It was really awkward, and the ratio at that one was like 30 women to 5 men. I had nowhere to go because it was a Mormon thing (aside from my coworkers, everyone was mormon). Try being at an awkward event, and then throw awkward on top of that.

No beer, no caffeine... no talking about boobs / sports / anything manly. I seriously wanted to shoot myself. I got my gf to leave after about 45 minutes. I probably would have gone crazy if I had stayed longer.

My advice is to avoid the situation entirely by any means necessary. Lie, cheat, steal, whatever. This is not a place you want to be!

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