Originally Posted by CWB

being in the dark makes it tough to figure out which way to go .

four years ago a woman that was a good friend (of ten years) moved away ... she would pop back into town to take care of business and check on a couple of properties she owned . we got together during her visits to catch up on the goings-on in our lives as well as to line out the work i was to do at the properties (maintainence/repair/installation) . we shared the good stuff/times as well as the bad .
one day i heard from a mutual friend that she had been to town and had left ... odd i thought , she didn't talk with me . i tried to call her and left messages ... no replies . this went on for some time and our mutual friends did not know what was going on . i started feeling a little indignant and pissed off , along the lines of "how dare she treat me like that" ! these thoughts would cross my mind frequently .
about six months later i was asked by her best female friend if we could have a meeting about some work and to chat a little ... during our meeting she informed me that our friend had been diagnosed with brain cancer about a year previous and had recently died . my reply was : "whaaaat !! she never said anything to me about it" ! at that point the gal told me she had known and promised not to tell me ... that my good friend did not want me to worry about her .
i was put out and hurt ... finally i remembered/accepted the fact that i have to allow others the dignity to do as they see fit and that i sure don't have all the answers nor do i need to .