Ok so heres my story. I met a girl (also my age - 23) several months ago. Actually I didnt think she was my type at first and since she was extremely shy I didn't really talk to her, let alone think about asking her out. However, near the end of the summer she started talking to me, watching me and following me around at work until one day SHE asked me if i wanted to go with her to friends party - i said yes. The first couple of times we went out were terrible ... we barely talked and she was very shy, but after the 3rd/4th time we went out she completely opened up. On the 4th "date" we made out/flirted at the beach for several hours.
So for the next 2 months we talked on the phone everyday for at least an hour and saw each other every 2/3 days - we became VERY close and intimate, but we were never boyfriend/girlfriend (she didn't want to because she wasn't ready - her last b/f hurt her apparently). She really liked me, always told me how hot I was and that I’m the perfect guy – even her friends at work told me that she liked me. It's weird because we did everything that bf/gf's do, except she didn't want anyone to know about the kissing/fucking part - i was confused but hell i just went along with it
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Then she blows me off one day to go out with some other guy so i get pissed off and stop talking to her. Eventually after 3 days she comes to see me and apologizes - for some reason i accepted her appology.
So we get back to the way things were before until i find out that she is and has been (for a while) spending time (when she’s not with me)with some other guy, a "friend" according to her (she recently moved here and he was her first friend). The more we go out the more I noticed her talking to him on that god dam cell phone of hers (yes I fucking hate cell phones) and they seem too friendly. Worst of all this guy, this “friend”, gets jealous when I call her when shes with him even though he doesn’t like her that way – that’s what she tells me anyway. Then I find out that she sleeps over at his house a lot and that he actually likes her but doesn’t want to date. So I ask if theres anything going on between them and she says no – only that they both like each other, and that shes only fucking me not him. Anyways, for the next couple of months were on and off fucking until I decide that I’ve had enough. She keeps lying to me about where she is (pretends to go out with friends but in fact shes at that guys house) and about other little things so i stop seeing her and rarely talk.
I feel like shit now. I actually got to like this girl more than a friend and really wanted to date her – thought she felt the same, she told me she did. I like her a lot and its been a long time since I felt this way about a girl - we realy did connect. I feel as though she has been using me this whole time to make that other guy jealous/worry about losing her – I think he was just playing hard to get since he had no competition (she barely knew anyone here, just moved here recently). This guy is a bum – has no job and doesn’t want to work , lazy, stupid, has no motivation for anything and lives off his parents money. He didn’t get her anything for Christmas but she spent a few hundred dollars on him(just found this out) – I got her a present but she didn’t get me anything. After Christmas she wanted to buy me something but I discouraged her because I thought she was broke (she wasn’t doing well financially). I don’t get these dumb girls. Why do they like losers? I don’t want to sound like I’m bragging but girls seem to like me a lot and think I’m hot – whats wrong with me? She says nothing, but why would she do this to me? Why make me like her then put a knife in my back. I cant stop thinking about this/her. I feel sad and hurt. Any suggestions? Anyone had something like this happen to them?