gibfeast

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First, I'll give background on the situation. There's snow here. Me and my sis both have RWD cars that isn't good to drive in the snow. So, we both take FWD cars. We have two FWD cars, one is down b/c the ignition switch is messed up. My car isn't insured either. So, one FWD cars we have to figure out who gets it. Today, my sister drove her S2000 to work (she had first choice, but couldn't find Maxima so she took the s2k). I drove the FWD maxima to class. We also live in a court (cul-de-sac), and right outside is a steep ass hill, and it's dangerous to go up it.

So an hour ago me and my sister just had a brutal argument. My sister is the type to confront you, with any little thing you do to annoy her. Well an hour ago, she approaches me, and says she needs to have a "talk." Then emotionally and angry, she explains to me why I got her mad that day:

She claims that I was sitting at the fireplace, and told her to park her car outside of the court, since it will be easier to get out (on top of the hill). That I "assumed" the maxima was my car to drive, and that I was inconsiderate by not asking her. Now, I have good memory. I never said this at all. I was just chillin by the fireplace, and never said anything to her at all.


Real story:
Basically after I sat by the fireplace, minding my own business, we ate dinner. My mom brought up that my sister should park on top of the street, outside of the court, and she asks why. My mom said that because it's easier to get out, since the snow might ice over tonight. Then she says why does it make a difference. Then all I said was that b/c main roads aren't icey, since it's plowed and salted often. That's all I said, and my dad said something else. I know I never said anything to her by the fireplace because that's when it first clicked to me that she drove her s2000 and parked in the court.

I told her I never said that, she got all emotional and pissed and swore on her life that I did. So we go to my parents. Guess what, my dad said he doesn't remember me saying anything like that, and that I wasn't the first one to say it. Then she denies it and everything. Says I did say it, and never believes anything I or my dad says.

Here's another instance, which happened about a year ago:

Background: Me, my brother, and sister were all in my room talking. My sister was discussing her future in terms of a career, she was planning to get into selling roses.

So after she's done talking about it, my bro and sis go back to their rooms. Well an hour later, my sister comes into my room to have another one of her "talks." She was pissed off and emotional, and told me what I did was really messed up. I was like "wha? What did I do exactly?" She's like "what do you mean, you said I was going to be unsuccessful!" Basically, she told me that earlier when she was discussing her career choice, that I told her in a mean way that she was going to be unsuccessful and I smiled. I said I never said anything like that, and that's not the type of person I am. I said I actually supported her and thought she would do well. She said it did seem off-character of me, but that she's 100% sure I said it. Again, she swears on her life that I said it.

Then I ask my brother to come in my room, b/c he was with us the whole time (and my sis said he was in there when I said it). He says he never heard me saying anything like that. He said he would remember something like that, because that's mean and off-character. He also said I don't seem at all like a person that would say something like that. She still doesn't believe him, or me. She says my brother wasn't listening then, and that I said it. My brother said he would hear something like that and remember. It took about 2 hours for her to finally accept that she "heard me wrong," but I don't think she heard me wrong b/c I never really said anything the whole time.


Those are two instances, this has probably happened 5-6 times, maybe even more. She's the type that mixes things a million times. Also if you prove her point wrong, she'll change it and say it didn't matter in the first place, or that you didn't understand. It's very very frustrating. Also she has very bad memory, any movie she's seen past a year she doesn't remember anything about it. Also we had an argument earlier that she didn't work at this bank place last winter. She said she did, and her proof was her resume. But then I talked to my brother, and she couldn't have b/c she didn't receive the best buy gift card. Then when I confronted her, she was like "ANDREW THAT WASN'T THE POINT IN THE FIRST PLACE! YOU MIXED THINGS UP!" When that was a crucial point the whole time.

Jeez I have an annoying sister, some people can't believe that I have the will power not to slap her. I hold it all in, b/c I know it would just get worse. Does anyone know what's wrong with her? Maybe she's stressed, depressed, schitzo? Here's some background information on her: She's late 20s, graduated from UVA with high marks, but still hasn't found a career or what she wants to do yet. She feels behind on her friends, all her friends are either married or have serious relationships, while she doesn't have a boyfriend. Her friends also have high paying stabile jobs, while she's unemployed and lazy as shit. She doesn't like living at home obviously. She has no money, and my dad even had to help make her payments for her s2000. Any psychologists here know what her problem is?

APOCALYPSE

she is crazy. lock her in a cage and feed her baby food through a tube.

schutzenkonig

This should be in "The padded room", I'm not really sure what advice I could give you, how old is your sis? (this would help out trying to figure out why she would act this way)

gibfeast

she's in her late 20s

kulotsalot

I'm no psychologist. But I suggest if you think it's a medical problem then go see a doctor.

EvilMonkey

it seems she has dillusional tendancies.

people like that genarally need to be medicated slightly or otherwise. they believe the things they hear or see is truth and you cannot i repeat CANNOT!!! sway them otherwise, to do so makes them confused and angry and only adds to the problem.

it like if someone was to say to you that you only had a sister and didnt have a brother. you know that you have a brother, but they say you dont. you wouldnt believe them, but imagine if you didnt have a brother and all this time your brother was a figment of your imagination, it doesnt make him any less real to you. i dont know if im explaining that well.

anyhoo, delusions generally surface at times of stress, ive had people that said that fire comes out of their hot top and soot out of the other, and stood there whilst they turned the taps on and asked me to step back so i dont set on fire, then proceed to turn off the taps and clear the soot up. they are not crazy, but they are deluded. what happens is they get medicated for their illness and they are ok, but cos they feel ok they stop taking meds and it starts all over again.

i suggest you write these instances down each time they happen so that you have documented cases with which to support any approach to a doctor or specialist, but in you sisters eyes there is nothing wrong with her and your lieing.

try and be there for her and dont argue or stress her out.

Juan.©amaney

Shrink eval...quick!

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thepipebomb

She’s either bipolar or a huge bitch. Sounds like she needs professional help.

AmorMiHombre

hehe, did she work for JPMorgan Chase??

and the one person who i know that is very skilled in knowing all types of dysfunction isn't online right now...

however, i would say she might be slightly schizophrenic or SOMETHING is going on. Maybe she suffered a breakdown after college since that seems to be the last place she did well...i'll google and see if anything sounds similar..

i've had schizo roommates before but they were all medicated so i couldn't tell you...seems to be a bit of paranoia as well...

AmorMiHombre

The sudden onset of severe psychotic symptoms is referred to as an “acute” phase of schizophrenia. “Psychosis,” a common condition in schizophrenia, is a state of mental impairment marked by hallucinations, which are disturbances of sensory perception, and/or delusions, which are false yet strongly held personal beliefs that result from an inability to separate real from unreal experiences. Less obvious symptoms, such as social isolation or withdrawal , or unusual speech, thinking, or behavior, may precede, be seen along with, or follow the psychotic symptoms.

Some people have only one such psychotic episode; others have many episodes during a lifetime, but lead relatively normal lives during the interim periods. However, the individual with “chronic” schizophrenia, or a continuous or recurring pattern of illness, often does not fully recover normal functioning and typically requires long-term treatment, generally including medication, to control the symptoms.

sounds like that sums her up....http://64.233.167.104/search?q=cach...zophrenia&hl=en

good luck with it all and i hope it comes out ok... feel free to PM if you need help or would like to talk.

gibfeast

thanks that is interesting. I did know schitzos can only have it a few times during their lifetime. My sister is definetly odd. Like you said unusual speech, thinking, as well as isolation and withdrawal, all of which she does. She also doesn't want to have kids. I mean, what late 20s early 30s adult doesn't want to have kids?

gibfeast

wow my brother came across this: http://www.aacap.org/about/glossary/Psychos.htm

Psychotic disorders include severe mental disorders which are characterized by extreme impairment of a person's ability to think clearly, respond emotionally, communicate effectively, understand reality, and behave appropriately. Psychotic symptoms can be seen in teenagers with a number of serious mental illnesses, such as depression, bi-polar disorder (manic-depression), schizophrenia, and with some forms of drug and alcohol abuse. Psychotic symptoms interfere with a person’s daily functioning and can be quite debilitating. Psychotic symptoms include delusions and hallucinations.

Delusion: A false, fixed, odd, or unusual belief firmly held by the patient. The belief is not ordinarily accepted by other members of the person’s culture or subculture. There are delusions of paranoia (others are plotting against them), grandiose delusions (exaggerated ideas of one's importance or identity), and somatic delusions (a healthy person believing that he/she has a terminal illness).

Hallucination: A sensory perception (seeing, hearing, feeling, and smelling) in the absence of an outside stimulus. For example, with auditory hallucinations, the person hears voices when there is no one talking.


For the delusions section, every single piece in that paragraph describes her perfectly. She thinks she's a really smart intellect, but she's one of the most un-logical person I've ever met in my life. Also at work she thought people were spying on her, and she definetly thinks she's super-important to other people. In other words, she exaggerates her identity. She also has some weird beliefs that ordinary people wouldn't accept. Thanks guys, I really didn't think she was schitzo myself, just and inkling. But after your post AmriHombre, I think she is.

AmorMiHombre

Glad you have your brother to help you in all of this. Is there a history of mental illness or such issues in your family? Have you spoken about this (your sister) with your parents, as they would be your best allies in getting her help?

And, did she work at JPMorgan Chase bank? Cause i did and they were running some stupid ass incentive to get a Best Buy gift certificate if you opened accounts or some crap...fuck them...

hehe but back on track, i hope you are able to resolve your problems with your sister.

p.s. i don't think i want kids and i'm 23 (just turned) and don't see myself having them any time in the near future...i know other people who just aren't that into kids (spawning their own), but with most things, that can change.

BackdoorJesus

Too true, Amor. I just think your alarm clock hasn't gone off yet! Give it another 6-7 years and/or a serious relationship/marriage, and your tune will change!

But if you can hold on to that non-spawning feeling until you're 35 or so, do it!! Some of the happiest married/committed couples we know in our 40-ish circle are kid-free.

I love my kids, but if I knew then what I know now...

Gibfeast - your sister does sound like she needs some help. Maybe not anything as extreme as medication, but certainly a couple visits to the local head-shrinker couldn't hurt!!

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