jimmytchi2000

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I'm having one of those contemplative days today and was wondering what others might think. I'm the father of a 23 month old baby boy Alex. His mother and I are no longer together. We met, had alot of fun, and after about 3 months she told me that she was pregnant. I tried really hard to be "a man" and tried to make things work. I really didn't love his mother when i found out that she was pregnant. But i decided that i would try to make things work. I moved in with her and we had the baby. After the baby was only 4 months old i decided that i could no longer be in a relationship with his mother and decided to move out. I could no longer see my child cry when his mother and i would fight. So i left.

So here is my problem now. I'm very much in love with the most amazing girl i have ever met. I'm really concidering possibly marrying Laura. I'm just having this feeling that I wish that my son was not born to the mother that he has. I love my son more than anything in this world. He is probably the only thing that is right in my life. But i just wish that he could have been the son of the one that i loved, not his mother. I don't know what i'm really looking for here on this page....i'm just confused and was wondering what others thought. Feel free to be totally honest, even blunt, I don't get offended very easily so anything you say most likely won't hurt me.

Thanks

Juan.©amaney

Its the price you pay for sex with someone you don't love. I commend you for even sticking around and not going the abortion way. Not much you can do about choosing his mother now, but the good thing is, the one you love, Laura, can be another mother figure in your son's life. I mean, some kids have one parent, some have two...your kid will be lucky and have 3 or 4.

Should have, would have, could have...but didn't. Just be glad you have what you have now. And, ALWAYS treat your baby's mother with respect.

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jimmytchi2000

yeah its been a rough road with her up to this point. I think we (his mother and i) are finally starting to realize though that there are better things to do with our time than fight. We've been getting along a lil bit better.

Juan.©amaney

Aye. The only thing you all should have in comon now is your son. Other than that, just stay out of each other's way and don't critique the other's parenting style unless its physically causing harm to the boy.

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jimmytchi2000

she's a good mother, as am i a good father. And that was the problem up to this point. We were kinda medeling in each others business.

One thing that is a good thing though is my son adores my new g'f. His eyes get all wide when he sees her and he give her big hugs and kisses. So thats a good thing.