Playmaker2

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My girlfriend broke up with her ex of about 3 years in order for us to be able to start dating. However, while using her computer one evening, a pop-up for an e-mail sent to her from her ex came up. Being curious (see:suspicious :p ) I clicked on it. It turns out that ever since she "broke up" with him, she has been flirting with him, saying it's "just a break", and telling him things like "I still see your face everywhere I go" and calling him pet names like dear, baby, honey ect...

She has told me that she is done with him, and want to only be with me. However, it appears that isn't that case. My question to everyone is, how do I bring this up with her, as the only reason I found out was by reading her e-mail, which I probably shouldn't have done in the first place. I love this woman and she says she loves me, but I don't know anymore, but the only way I can prove this is by admiting I read her e-mails. How should I go about bringing this up, if nothing else to make sure she wants to be with me? Thanks in advance for any advice.

CWB

a sticky situation at best . the way i see it , you are damned if you do and damned if you don't ...

if you admit to what you did , she could claim that you had no right to do as you did , get bent , and walk .
she could continue to lie to you (as she obviously has been) and come up with some kind of story to cover her arse ... "i was just playing with him , you're the one i care about" ... ad nauseum infinitum .
you mentioned being "suspicious" ... is this based on other indications or is this stand alone in it's nature ? i certainly would be hard pressed to not be suspicious given that she "broke up" with him long ago and still continues treat him in an all to "personal" manner .

my question would be ; can/could i trust her in light of what i know she has done ?
it seems to me that she lacks a sense of honor and has no/very little respect for you in the areas that weigh the heaviest .
in a way it might be a good thing that you found out now as opposed to several months down the road ... less pain/hassle this way .

good luck on whatever you choose to do .

tsmo

From her email that you read. it basically states that she isnt through with him. and you are just a toy.

my advice. just get out now. you dont have to explain anything. you know.. she knows.. when she asks why your leaving, just give her that "you've got to be fucking kidding me look "

You could explain that you were snooping through her email, and found this, and why oh why.. blah blah fucking blah. then all of a sudden your the bad guy,. and she may try to lie with "Im just letting him down easy BS. fuck that. shes busted, you know it, gtfo and find a woman thats into just you.

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donwilson

Get out, get out, get out.

DO NOT reveal that you read her email. Talk about burning bridges that need not being burnt.

jab

She break it off. If she asks why, just tell her that you don't feel that there is a long term commitment from her side, don't tell her about reading the email.

BackdoorJesus

tsmo is on target.

she's not over him, you are a toy to shore up her self-esteem and/or confidence before she goes back to him. If you are emotionally attached, realize that she probably isn't, and bail. If you aren't emotionally attached, that will just make it easier to do the right thing.

You've been lied to, but you can be the grownup here.

No reasons, no explanations, "It just isn't working for me - but I'd like to stay friends"

thats all that needs to be said...

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mushroomvr6

bin there.but she '"accidentally"met him in town.i confronted her n dumped her ass.she was back with him in a week.

clamsrus

I'd open all her mail.....hard copy print the lot in large font...and his replies if any.......and then wallpaper her room with them...then leave her suitcase packed on the bed...and not say a word!