WR - Girlfriend wants to take it slow

03-18-2006, 05:38 PM	#16
Manning1985 whore Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: South Dakota Posts: 796/0.77 Threads: 2 Friends Network	Re: Girlfriend wants to take it slow Simply talk to her about it, everything including her last boyfriend which will actully be much harder for you to hear, then it will be for her to say. But, she will appreciate your intrest in her, talk to her about what you feel. And try to come to a compramise, then take her out for a nice diner to seperate yourselves from any sexual tensionfor the rest of the night.

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04-09-2006, 12:27 AM	#17
cky464 whore Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: west chester, PA Posts: 10/0.01 Threads: 2 Friends Network	Re: Girlfriend wants to take it slow well, it's been a while and it still hasn't gotten any better. she moves my hand away, and when we get too far she stops. she says it's because she's uncomfortable. i guess that means i have to work on making her feel more safe?

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04-09-2006, 03:28 AM

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Re: Girlfriend wants to take it slow

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Originally Posted by cky464

well, it's been a while and it still hasn't gotten any better. she moves my hand away, and when we get too far she stops. she says it's because she's uncomfortable. i guess that means i have to work on making her feel more safe?

Well the way I'm reading this so far is simple. She sees you on the weekend yes? Do you call her during the week or attempt to talk to her during the week? Or are your only calls when you want to see her?

Why do you get to see her only on the weekends? Does she work? or do this or that?

Those are the questions that you must be sure of before you come to any sort of decision. Just because your ready to fuck her brains out doesn't mean that she is. Remember you are a man - if you fuck her brains out your the man... shes a girl - if she gets her brains fucked out and then gets dumped shes nothing.

So two very simple options. If you like her and respect her and really want to be with her take it slow. If you dont really care you should do the right hting and leave her - there is no point playing with her emotions.

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04-09-2006, 03:38 AM	#19
BlackPearlSpace read the internet, twice Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Calgary, Alberta Posts: 2,091/1.82 Threads: 82 Friends Network	Re: Girlfriend wants to take it slow dude. take tsmo's advice, seriously. you're in for a whole lotta bullshit if you continue this way. I don't know either of you, but this is what I see, and here's my 2 cents, take it or leave it. Since I'm playing lots of Halo right now (8-10 hours today) the thing that comes to mind is, when the little dudes go "Run Away!" yeah man, run away. you're in for a serious waste of time. sounds like she's hung up on the previous relationship and is transfering allot of that onto you. she has no idea she's doing this, but it looks like that to me. you two are at different levels. you're a horny young male. just look around, someone acceptable will fuck you. she's going through all her woman mysteries about security and trust and all kinds of shit 18 year old guys have zero to do with. that's not a bad thing, everything happens at the right time for people. this is not your time for being a secure stable guy. its just not the truth. align your intentions with exactly what you are at this stage, or else you'll both be unhappy. find the truth, it may not be easy. my point is, like he said, cut your losses now. otherwise, you're gonna be extremely frustrated, and you'll develop some serious problems as you try to reconcile this with the fact that you truly like and care about this person. this conflict will manifest in other, possible very hurtful ways. no good shall come of this (haha, where's that line from?) as far as working to make her feel more safe, that's an impossible task, she's just not ready. you don't have a couple years to wait do you? if so, by all means, but I say just book it. be her friend, but that's it. you're gonna get yourself into a bad situation of being always reacting to her, constantly trying to read her to see how she feels and always adjusting your behaviour to fit what you think she might want. bad bad bad bad bad !!! bad place to be my friend, get thee away. its a passive-aggressive trap. even if its not malicious, when she snaps out of it, she'll see that you're always on edge, trying to read her and she'll be like "grow some balls" and she'll be really put off by it all. in conclusion. well, read what I said and draw your own. the last bit is the most important. you won't be in your truth, you'll be reacting to her, so she gets a wishy-washy reacting guy, not what she wants. its a lose-lose man. hope this helps. let us know how it goes.

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