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every lad does it in the club, tries to dance with whoever is around. but, for those of us males who are in a relationship, is sexy dancing with another girl ie grinding,pushing your body hard against hers, trailing your hands up towards her boobs etc clarified as cheating?

Lucky13

I kind of see it as yes. I have a girlfriend and I live quite far from her so I'll oftentimes go out with my friends without her. Exactly what constitutes cheating is defined differently in every relationship. A good rule to go by though is that anything you're doing with another girl that you wouldn't tell your GF about is cheating, or close enough anyway.

skept

Totally agree with nflcclucky. Most girls like to shake their booty in a club - so why not just take your girl out - that way you can both have fun at the same time?

Its the same as being in a relationship and going to a strip club and getting a lap dance. Me and a mate were talking about this on msn just tonight. There is a trade off between being single and being in a relationship. When your single you have all the freedom in the world and you can do virtually anything without guilt. The downside of being single is that you lack the closeness with a person. A relationship on the other hand you have closeness however you will have to restrict some of your freedoms.

The Dog

1.0.0% not cheating... Dancing is nothing but having a good time... It may piss your girlfriend off, but in no way is it cheating...

I myself do not dance but do go to clubs with my girlfriend, who does dance. I have no problem with her going out and dancing by herself, not that she goes out there looking for guys to dance with, but guys do come up and dance with her..Now, don't get me wrong, she doesnt get all freaky with these guys while i'm there, but she does go out with her friends to clubs and i dont know what goes on...

What i'm trying to say, is that who cares about dancing when she is coming home to me??

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The Dog

I kind of agree with SKEPT4, but the only thing you should have to give up is sexual contact with other people.. there are other things that need to be compromised on (ie: hanging out with your friends all the time) but those should be things you want to do to spend more time with your partner..

Juan.©amaney

The way I see it, if you are doing something you wouldn't want your significant other doing or you won't tell her because you know she'll get mad...it's considered pseudo cheating.

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PirateOZanzabar

agree with juan. if you don't want her doing it. don't do it.

and hell, why not just take your gf out to a club or something instead of trying to dance with random girls and coming off kinda freaky? lol.

bohica mike

My rule of thumb is if it's something that would piss me off if she did it, then it's a for me.

silliousbgoat

I look at it as, if I would get jealous if I saw my girl doing this with someoene, then she will probably get jealous if I do it. And if it is cheating or not does that really matter, isnt it more a point of what she finds offensive? I mean i dont go checking out ladies in front of my girl, its not cheating but it isnt exactly gonna make her feel good.

PFKL

Cheating is defined only by those in the relationship. If she doesn't have a problem, and you don't have a problem with certian behavior then there's really "nothing wrong" with acting or being a certian way (. . . per se). For example, all my friends are chicks and my GF has no problem with me dancing w/them. Then again, you could say that I feel a bit used in that from my position, as the only guy out with a group of 4 girls, they use me as "protection" from the creepy old guy in the club. I would be hanging out w/one friend w/a drink in my hand where suddenly I'll feel booty shaking against me and the arms of my other friend around my neck wispering "save me".

Reciprocosity is also a very valid test for questionable behavior, don't do something that you don't want her to do.

If you don't know, that doen't mean that certian behavior is wrong, just ask. Like in the aforementioned example: in a different context, with different people, or a different GF, my actions could make myself liable to suffer physical pain from one or more of these girls. So, really, your actions depend on your context (who you're dancing with, who your GF is, context of the situation, etc).

facepeeler

I would say no, but my best friend and his girlfriend would say that even going to the club without the other is cheating. At least I have heard some BRUTAL arguments between the two of them because one goes to the club and the other doesn't know about it. Serious name calling goes down, like SLUT, and WHORE, shit like that...it's ridiculous.

I think it depends on the amount of contact between the people dancing if it's considered cheating or not. Like if there's all kinds of groping and shit, then yes, that's cheating and grounds for an ass beating.

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jeffc574

Unfortunetley, it is your GF who gets to decide. What would you do if you walked into a club and saw your GF grinding on some stanger? If it stops with the clothes on and no kissing, I might be ok. But everyone is different.